As I was reading Gary Zukav’s Seat of the Soul, he described a concept that I have struggled with before. It’s the concept of being ONE.  It is hard to wrap our human minds around this concept and one of my quandaries has always been that we often hear of ‘Old Souls’, which points to time and age, and if we are ONE, wouldn’t we all be the same age? Gary used the analogy of the Ocean to explain.

Imagine the ocean. The ocean is whole, but if we take a cup of water out of the ocean, then we have a separated piece of the ocean. That cup of ocean water may be taken from New York or Florida or North Carolina or Hawaii, so the experience of that cup of water will be different because the shore that it came from is of different experiences.

When we think of it this way, we can see how we can be individual AND one with the “All That Is”. The life or age of that particular and separated cup of water will begin on the day that it was taken out of the ocean. This explains the age of the ‘cup of ocean water’ being a different ‘age’ than the ocean. That cup of water will experience different situations than the ocean as it makes its way around new surroundings.

We can then also understand that each of the separate droplets of water are what make up the whole ocean.

It might be easier to be kind to each other when we can see that we are also all part of the one human whole. I hope this helps others to maybe understand this very important message.

Have a great Friday Peeps!

Hugs and Mush, Gommy

Hello Boys and Girls. It’s been a while since I’ve written on my blog. Ever since Facebook, I’ve written my thoughts on that site. But I felt compelled to look at my Gommy’s Goodies this morning and thought I’d share a thought or two with you.

We find ourselves in a weird, weird sort of time these days. There are so many people who are lying and now we even have something called Fake News, where things are purposely made up to sway how we think. It’s scary times that we are living in right now boys and girls and we have to keep on our toes so that we don’t get duped. Or duped even more than we have been lately.

Dealing with a pathological anything is very tricky. A pathological liar, narcissist, or anything that falls under the personality disorder that includes pathological, is suffering on some level, from an instability and a lack insight that doesn’t involve them.

I guess I am a bit over-sensitive to lying because I was brought up by a mother who detested lying. I never found out why she hated lying  as much as she did, but I remember her always saying – “You can trust a thief more than a liar because you can see someone stealing, but you can’t tell when they are lying.”  Truth was very important to my Mom and she handed down it down to me.

The scariest thing about a PL is that they think they are telling the truth.  The most important thing to remember about a PL is that they lack empathy as well. This is mainly because the PL doesn’t think how their lie will affect anyone else because they only think of themselves.

Once trust is lost, it’s almost impossible to get it back. But the PL doesn’t think this far either. So, my only suggestion in dealing with a PL is to know the person and once you do know someone really well, it will become very apparent that they are known not only to stretch the truth, but that they rarely ever tell the truth. And on the occasion that they may be saying something truthful, they won’t be believed – much like the little boy who cried wolf in the fairy tale that we all remember from our childhood.

The next time you feel it’s necessary to tell a lie, check yourself because even if you aren’t a PL, it’s a slippery slope because you will have to tell another lie after the first one because one lie leads to another lie to cover up the first lie and on and on and on. That’s another thing my Mom told me – “You have to have a perfect memory to be a liar, or you’ll get caught every time!”

Remember always that Honesty is ALWAYS the Best Policy my friends!

Hugs and Mush, Gommy    

WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE???

Hello Boys and Girls and Happy New Year! It IS that time of year when we look back on what we did and didn't accomplish in the year....and on any mistakes we might have made....or on feeling good about the really good things we may have done. And hope that we made a difference....a good difference in the lives of those who mean the most to us.

As I was having me a little look back and making sure the reflection I was seeing was really what I thought I was seeing, I took out my trusty 'Bible' (Eckhart Tolles' A New Earth) and let the book open wherever it wanted to open. I always think that whatever I am looking for will be revealed to me in that way.  Welllll, it opened up to the Chapter on, 'Finding Who You Truly Are'. Hmmmmmm.....that's a pretty good thing to reflect on..... [I sez to myself]. So here's what ET had to say about WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?.

~"The world always makes sure that you cannot fool yourself for long about who you really think you are, by showing you what truly matters to you. How you react to people and situations, especially when challenges arise, is the best indicator of how deeply you know yourself.

The more limited, the more narrowly egoic the view of yourself... the more you will see, focus on, and react to the egoic limitations of the unconsciousness in others. Their 'faults' or what you perceive as their faults become their identity to you. This means you will see only the ego in them and thus strengthen the ego in yourself. Instead of looking 'through' the ego in others....you are look 'at' the ego. Who is looking at the ego? The ego in you...that's who.

Very unconscious people experience their own ego through its reflection in others. When you realize that what you react to in others....is also in you....(and sometimes only in you)...you begin to become aware of your own ego, i.e. what makes you tick-(Gommy added that 'what makes you tick' part). At that stage, you may also realize that you were doing to others...what you thought others were doing to you. You cease seeing yourself as a victim."~

WOW....that is some reflection now, ain't it? The very thing that aggravates me about someone else is a reflection of something in me. Now, most people would never admit that....and that is the reason we have as many whacka-dos in the world as we do. So many people who hold onto their beliefs in 'xyz' with a death grip....because they identify so strongly with their belief in 'xyz'....that they don't know what or who they would be without it. And THAT my friends is fear related....which causes all pain and suffering.

ET also said....."Nobody can tell you who you are. It would just be another concept, so it would not change you. Who you are requires no belief. In fact....every belief is an obstacle. It does not even require your realization, since you are already who you are. BUT....without 'realization'.....who you are does not shine forth into this world. It remains in the unmanifested, which is, of course, your true 'home'. You are then like an apparently poor person who does not know he has a bank account with $100 Million in it and so his wealth remains an unexpressed potential."

Hey, I'm a millionaire.....many times over. And so are you peeps. You can just walk into your 'bank of all potential' and withdraw any amount you need. But start with being honest about who you think you are....cuz if you keep telling yourself a pack of lies.....you won't get anywhere and you might become one of those whacka dos I was talking about. You can do it!!!! Gommy is pulling for ya'. Hugs and Mush, and a VERY Happy New Year to one and all!!! Gommy

Hello everyone! It has been a sad week with the murders of the little children and teachers in Connecticut. Something went terribly wrong.  Especially at this time of year, when we are 'supposed' to be filled with joy, love and good tidings toward all. Instead, it made me think how very little we know about what is in our own.....or our loved ones future on any given day.

It also brought me back to the day my own children were taken from me. They were older (17 and 22)....but your children will always be your babies....no matter how old they are. I can remember the shock and deep, agonizing pain I felt the moment I heard they were gone. To a parent, there is nothing in the world and no other pain that can match that helpless and nauseating feeling. Every memory of every event or occasion that you ever shared together comes flooding back to you in an instant. It  must be likened to the way we are told our own life comes back to us when we die.  And while you are remembering.....there is a mix of pure joy from the memories....and a deep stabbing in your heart at the same time... at the realization that you will never share new memories with them again.

As I watched the unfolding of this terrible sadness....I heard people saying things like....what must these parents be feeling? I do know what these families are feeling.  And I feel deeply for the families that are facing that pain right now. If they are like I was....they are still in a state of shock. The shock  and numbness you feel is [thankfully] with you all the while you are making decisions like; choosing their coffins.....the clothing they will wear in that coffin....the details you want at the funeral home.....choosing the flowers you want on their coffins.  Then you look for pictures that you will share (in my case, it was for the newspaper so they could report the accident). Then you are inundated with telephone calls by friends and family who just want to tell you they are thinking of you....but all you really want to do is roll up in a ball and make it go away. But it doesn't go away. It really never fully goes away. But you learn to 'live with it' and try not to let their passing define you in a way that is not honoring their memory. You try to not be bitter....or mad.....or not go on with your own life. But it is a process....and these parents have a long way to go before they get to the other side of this nightmare.



There are no answers either but you do look and look for an answer. I searched different churches, synagogues.....anywhere I thought would 'give me THE answer' I was looking for. For me, I found that we won't ultimately 'know' the answer....until we meet with our loved ones again some day.

There is no escaping or no guarantees that something horrid won't happen in your lifetime either. We all have the false belief that,  'It can't happen to us...not in our town....not to us or our children.'. But it CAN happen. Any where...any town....to any one. But to live in fear that it might happen....is to give up the time and the precious days we DO have with our loved ones. If anything good ever can come out of such pain and suffering....it is that we are jolted into remembering just how much our loved ones DO mean to us. It makes us hug them a little longer.....tell them how much they do mean to us....and it makes us appreciate and be grateful for another day we get to be with them.

So, tell the people in your life how much they mean to you. Do it every day....because tomorrow is not promised to us. Live today. Live in the NOW! Now is all we are completely sure of. You can do it. Gommy is pulling for you. Hugs and Mush and lots of Love, Gommy

Hello Boys and Girls. It’s been a while since I have written on my blog…but I feel compelled to speak to a subject that is weighing heavily on me today. For personal reasons, I won't say why this particular day is so integral to the topic of truth, but it does seem to be jumping out at me and egging me on to speak about it.  So I will.

It is 11:11 AM as I begin to write this….which is an ‘aha’ for me as well. But it started when I woke up and turned on my computer and went to Facebook, as I usually do each morning.  A friend had posted a quote by Warren Buffet that said, “Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.” We can think of the word ‘cheap’ as stingy or we can think of it as not having much worth. Either description is not a very good one to have on your character list.

The thing about being true to yourself is that it is the only way to be able to live in contentment and have peace of mind in knowing that you are doing what is right.  I am a firm believer that as long as we do the right thing, everything will turn out right in the end. That isn’t to say that we don’t all make mistakes in our lives. We do. But we must face the fact that we have made a mistake, be contrite about it, and ask forgiveness for what we did. But when a person does something very wrong….and acts as if they didn’t do it….then I cannot be around someone like that and act as if it didn't happen as well. It would feel as if I were being disloyal to my own conscience and somehow being complicit in the deed.

I am married to one of the most admirable, giving, loyal and honest persons I have ever had the privilege of knowing. He stands up for what he believes in and never waivers. Sadly, you don’t find that many people with those qualities in the world anymore.  Most people ride the wave or go with whatever is more comfortable for them in a sticky situation. It takes great character to do what is right….when others are not willing to face the truth. You can even be shunned for doing the right thing. But nothing is worth losing your own self-respect in the trade, just to be liked or welcomed. It’s like selling your soul to the Devil. You may be living large right now….but the smallness you feel about yourself is always there, nagging at you.

Then, a little later in the morning, I was watching a taped segment of The Katie show. She had Dr. Phil on as a guest and he said something that goes perfectly with this subject. And when he said it…..I just knew it was another signal that I had to write about it in my blog.  He said,  “Winners deal with the truth….good, bad or indifferent.” I would add that there may be times when you have to withhold something, so as not to hurt an innocent person.....but that is the rare exception. I am speaking to blatant lies and lack of integrity today.

Living and dealing with the truth is not always easy. But to be a ‘winner in life’ you must be truthful.....at all times. Lying to yourself is pretty silly, because you really do know the truth and if you can lie to yourself…then you can certainly lie to everyone else you come in contact with. My mother always said, “You can watch a thief….but not a liar.”  You can lock stuff up so that a thief can’t get to it…..but a liar is harder to watch. But the good news is that eventually the truth will come out. That has always stuck with me throughout my life.

So, the moral of this blog today is to be honest. It may not always be easy…but it will always turn out for the good and you will feel like the winner you are. I promise!!! You can do it boys and girls….don’t let the Haters and the Baiters change you from being a winner into a loser. Gommy is pulling for you! Hugs and Mush, Gommy

My loves…. my Terry and Tiffany….it has been twenty years today since that awful day that you were taken. I can honestly say that there hasn’t been a day in all those years that I haven’t thought of each of you. You gave me so much in the time you were here. And although so much was taken by your leaving….you continue to give to me…. each and every day since you left us.

 In Thessalonians 5:16-22, The Bible teaches us:

16- Always rejoice,
17- Constantly pray,
18- In everything give thanks.
For this is God’s will for you…..
19- Do not extinguish the Spirit.
20 -Do not treat prophecies with contempt.
21- But examine all things; hold fast to what is good.
22- Stay away from every form of evil

Now, I can easily check off some of these ‘instructions’ in agreement. But when you were taken….a few of those instructions were harder to accept….. MUCH harder.

In the ‘in everything give thanks’ one, I had a hard time ever imagining giving thanks for losing you both. And the ‘do not extinguish the Spirit’ was difficult because it seemed like my Spirit had pretty much been extinguished at the time. But as the years have gone by, I have come to realize that resisting the fact that you were taken from us is a moot point and has no practical value or meaning, precisely because it had already happened. Of course I will always miss you each and every day, but resisting something that had already taken place would just cause me more pain if I could not accept the reality of ‘What Is’…. and find my own peace by being grateful that you had come into my life at all. 

The one that says to 'examine all things and hold fast to what is good' is very good advice. If we can remember to hold on to what is good.....our lives will be much more content than if we dwell on the things that aren't so good.  The one about evil can be taken as evil thoughts as well as people or situations. I would rather think thoughts of all the wonderful times we had together, than to dwell on the day that you both were taken away from us.

In realizing these truths, you gave me the gift of gratitude in knowing that each day truly is a gift and knowing this makes everything so much more precious to me. It makes me not sweat the small stuff….and it makes me notice the wonder of everyone and everything around me. You still give me my ‘forever smiles’ with memories of the many things we did together. You still touch my heart when I remember each of you as the baby we brought home and loved and cared for all those years ago. You give me the gift of feeling I was a good Mom and I must have done something right….because so many of your friends still keep in touch with me….even now….and they tell me how special you were. And even though I don’t really need reminders…..it is still nice to hear.

I know we will never get to be together on this Earth again, but you gave me the hope that we will be together again…one day. You also gave me the insight into how much pain I could endure and still be able to go on with my life. The pain was agonizing and the suffering was excruciating when we lost you, but you showed me that I was stronger than I had ever thought myself as being. If anyone would have told me that I would be able to go on after you left….I would have said they were crazy. But I have learned that no matter how terrible something in life can be….life does indeed go on. And I know that you loved me as much as I love you….and that you would want me to go on. Just as I would have wanted you to go on…had it been me that left that day.

So thank you for everything you gave to me and brought into my life while you were here…and thank you for all you have given me since you left….and thank you for all you continue to give me still….all these twenty years later.

I know in my heart of hearts, that I will see you again one day….and I will be soooo happy to see you and kiss you and hug you again. But in the meantime….I will be happy here with all that I still have to be grateful for. And there is much that I continue to say Grace over every day. I will keep noticing all the beauty and splendor of life for whatever time I have left on this Earth. And I will be grateful to you both for touching my life in such an awesome way.  I know you are happy for me that I am living life this way….and that I am striving to be happy each blessed day that I am given. And in this way, I feel that I honor the memory of you both.

I will be seeing you my sweethearts…..but not yet. Not yet because I still have much to do….and to love and to enjoy while I am here on this physical plane. There are still so many who cross my path….. that I can remind to hug their loved ones and their little children while they can, and to enjoy their spouses and parents while they still have them and everyone who means anything to them. So, you hug each other for me and know that I am loving you bunches and that I still miss you both very much and I know I always will.

Hugs and Mush -  Mom

Hello Boys and Girls. Seeing this is Sunday, I thought I would share another excerpt from the book, The Untethered Soul, about the kind of Love that God has for everything and everyone. Not to be preachy….but because this chapter spoke to me about loving one another. There seems to be such divisiveness in the World today. There is hate coming into our lives from so many places and on so many levels; with family discord, road rage, self-hate and lately, so much hate even in Politics. True love, the type of Love everything and everyone receives with grace from God, is pure and unconditional. It is best described IMHO, in Corinthians 13:4-7: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’

All religions point to the same idea that we are all one. In The Untethered Soul, the author points out that; “In the Gospel of John, Christ says, ‘That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us….I in thee, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one’. So it was taught in the Hindu Vedas; so it was taught in the Jewish Kabbalah; so it was written by the great Sufi mystic poets; and so it was taught in all the great religious traditions of all time. Such a state exists; one can merge into the Universal Absolute. Once can merge into God.”

Of course it may be hard to understand these teaching and sometimes we have to ‘read between the lines’, as the translations have been misinterpreted and misunderstood over time, then repeated so many times in dogma and doctrine….that we come to ‘believe’ what we ‘think’ we have ‘learned’.

The chapter goes on to say, “This is how you know something about God. You become one with Him. Ultimately, the only way to know about God is by letting your being merge into The Being, and then seeing what happens to you. This is universal consciousness, and the qualities of the beings who have attained this deep state are similar in every religion.” Notice the author says EVERY religion. He is not speaking about the kooks of the world who have put a hateful slant or meaning to their religion. Not the fanatics who kill in the name of God. But the basis of ALL religions....as being 'Love of one another as you love your self'.

The author explains that experiencing true love….God’s love…..as what happens if we could walk this path the way God does. “What transformations do they go through along the way? To understand this, imagine what would happen if you started feeling tremendous love for all creatures, for every plant, for every animal, and for all the beauties of nature. Imagine if every child seemed like your own, and every person you saw looked like a beautiful flower, with its own color, its own expression, shape, and sounds. As you went deeper, you would start noticing a phenomenal thing – you are no longer judging. The process of judging has simply stopped. There is just appreciating and honoring. Where there used to be judging, there is now respecting, loving, and cherishing. To differentiate is to judge. To see, to experience, and to honor is to participate in life instead of standing back and judging it.”

“When you walk through a beautiful botanical garden, you feel open and light. You feel love. You see beauty. You don’t judge the shape and placement of every leaf. The leaves are of all sizes and shapes and they face every-which-way. That’s what makes them beautiful. What if you felt that way about people? What if they didn’t all have to dress the same, believe the same, or behave the same? What if they were like the flowers, and however they happened to be…..seemed beautiful to you? If that happened, you’d get a glimpse of God. That’s the best way to know God. Watch what happens to you as you get closer to God.”

That pretty much sums it up for me. It explains clearly that when we compare and judge…we are separating ourselves from this wonderful love. When we  love unconditionally….we are becoming ONE…and that is what I think we are here to do on this physical plane. And if we stop comparing, judging and feeling separate from one another….we can get closer to how God intended us to be.  

So, to check to see if you are getting closer to God or going farther away from what God intended for us, sense how you are feeling. If you are feeling alone or jealous or combative….you are moving away from God. If you can stop yourself from judging and begin to love, respect and accept everyone….then you are definitely moving towards what God if offering us each day with all the splendor that surrounds us.

Have a wonderful Sunday peeps and begin to notice all that beauty that you may be taking for granted out there.  And it IS everywhere. Hugs and Mush - Gommy