Hello boys and girls.....it's been a while since Gommy has blogged and to be honest.....there have just been soooo many things going on since the last time, that blogging has been put on the back burner....BUT...they were all good things, so there will be more blogs to follow soon.
Today, Gommy wants to write about rudeness.....Now you may be saying that you aren't rude because; you haven't tripped anyone on purpose lately, or you haven't made anyone cry from being so mean to them, or you can't remember snubbing anyone on purpose. Well friends, rudeness can take many forms. There are subtle ways to be rude and we should all try to be more aware of our actions so we don't increasingly become a society of rude people.
You could be the sort of rude person who is always late. That character flaw shows that you feel your time must be more important than the person you are making wait. Or you may interrupt others and by doing so, you assume what you have to say is more interesting than what the person you are interrupting is saying. Or you could talk or text on your phone while in the company of someone and this tells the person you are with that you don't really enjoy their company as much as answering the person who actually 'interrupted' you and the person who is with you at the time. While we are on the subject of the phone.....it is really rude to use your phone in: church, the movie theater, in school, at a meeting, etc..... Remember also, that no one needs to hear your entire conversation either. It used to be that conversations were between a couple of people, but now with the advent of the cell phone....everyone gets to hear what you are saying.
Another rudeness is vulgarity. Or in simpler terms....cussing....Goms for one doesn't appreciate the 'F' bomb being dropped all the time in social situations. Gommy isn't a prude by any means, but there are some people who don't appreciate profanity and in the spirit of giving a hoot, just tone it down while in public, pretty please. You might also remember that swearing is used by those who have a limited vocabulary....so learn a few more words.
The use of the phrases of 'please' and 'thank you' and 'excuse me' have seemingly gone out the window in today's machinations as well. It used to be the custom in polite society to say 'thank you' to someone for a nicety such as; holding a door open for you, serving you, or doing a favor for you. 'Please' also used to be the first word in asking someone FOR anything. And 'excuse me' was used when we infringed on anyone, be it either by interrupting them, bumping into them, saying 'excuse me' when you didn't hear what someone said, instead of saying "HUH?", or any unintentional act that may be seen as being rude.
When entering into a room or passing someone in the hall at work or even on the street.....would it kill any of us to say hello, good morning or at the least...give the person a nod? The definition of 'courtesy' is; to have excellence of manners and to be respectful or considerate of others. Courtesy is important because it shows respect for others and 'common courtesy', such as listening when others are speaking, makes it easier to just get along with people in general.
But, on the other hand, if someone is being rude and it is obvious that they are not going to change, just be all the more courteous and the rude person will be the one who looks the fool. That is because acting obnoxious is an affliction that isn't noticed by the obnoxious one and is very evident to everyone all around them.
Common courtesy is taught from the home while we are still children. If we aren't taught, we won't know how to be civil and we will end up being rude adults. So parents, 'please' teach good manners to your children while they are still impressionable. It is a habit that is learned. And it is your responsibility to teach your children how to be polite and live in a civilization, emphasis on the 'civil'. It will help them immensely while they are growing into adulthood and are trying to navigate this great big world full of people.
So...your lesson for today is to "mind your P's and Q's". That phrase came about originally, way back in the 17th Century in England, when bartenders had to keep an eye on their customers so they didn't drink too much. The P was for the pints they were drinking that could turn into quarts or Q's. Later it evolved into minding your manners, i.e. especially remembering to say 'please and thank you' and 'excuse me'. It really isn't hard to be polite. But you must practice, practice, practice. It will come back if you make it a habit to be nice.....Thank you for reading my blog today and please come back another time and excuse me if I stepped on any toes with today's Blog.....Hugs and Mush and remember always that Gommy is pulling for you. It can only make the world a nicer place if we remember to be kinder and gentler with each other.
