Our children start out loving us as parents. As they grow, they eventually come to judge us. And as they learn some of lifes' lessons or become parents themselves, they sometimes begin to even forgive us.
As a mother of three myself, Gommy can only go by my own experience. I cannot explain how deeply my love is for my children. I lost two of my children (Terry and Tiffany) in a car accident many years ago, but they still fill my heart with love, pride and joyful bliss when I think of them.....and I think of them
I see my daughter doing so much better than I did as she is raising her two children now. She is cognizant of the fact that everything she and their daddy do is being absorbed by their little off-spring and that is so important to note. We parents always do try to do what is best but we do 'fall off the wagon' at times. But as Oprah often says, "If we had known better, we would have done better." But I always say that as long as we acted lovingly and in the best interest of the children, we should be forgiven any mistakes we made along the way. We are only human. Even though I do think Moms are SUPER-human......
It takes years of living to realize what affect we had on our children. Some things are never able to be corrected and it is very sad to see how peoples' lives are ruined or at least unhappy because of their childhood.
Gommy hears stories of how mothers and daughters or sons and fathers or vice versa, who are not close and don't enjoy each others company. I cannot even fathom how a parent and child can't be close.....Though I know there are many reasons this could be i.e. a parent can't keep their noses out of the childs' grown-up life, the parent is too self-centered to want to be in the grown childs' life, the parent had too many unhappy things that they are still hanging onto from their own childhood to know how to BE a parent that wants to be close to their child.....Any of those scenarios are way too sad to think of. Gommy is soooo very grateful for the wonderful relationships she had with EACH of her children. Thank you God for the greatest gift ever, (next to life itself......)
So Gommy hopes this reaches some family or families that need to reconnect for whatever reason. It is worth trying to forgive whatever the misunderstanding or unhappy memories or whatever it was that tore you apart. Love is the best medicine for most everything there is that ails you. Just remember that there may have been circumstances or reasons why things went awry. Give each other a break and kiss and make up....Go on now.....do it.....Hugs to all....Gommy ((*.*))
