First, let Gommy say that any posts in 'gommysgoodies' are from experiences and lessons learned in Gommys' life and are not pointed in anyone elses direction. If people take offense, Goms apologizes in advance. There is a choice to read 'gommysgoodies'....it is not mandatory in any way, so if you find that you are offended.....please do not log on;) Gommys' blog was meant to express my 'own' musings and thougts and maybe help others from perhaps making the same mistakes or pointing out how it is not important to focus on the negative and to appreciate what we all have been given in this wonderful life. They are lessons Gommy has acquired over the years from my own past mistakes, my own yearnings, my own years of experience from living, rearing children, enjoying my daughter and living long enough to enjoy our grandchildren......it is not and has never been meant to be a platform for vengefulness.....;)
It has been some time since Gommy has written anything in my blog and there is a very good reason for that....Goms was recently tempted into reverting back to an old way of dealing with things and not the way things SHOULD be handled. It is sooooo easy to fall down that slippery slope when someone provokes you. But if you keep your head about you and take the deep breaths Gommy has 'preached' about in earlier blogs......it will come back to center once again. It takes a concerted effort though, so don't think it just happens. 'Practice, practice and more practice and patience, patience and more patience' will have to be your 'mantra' when something comes along to test what you have 'said' or 'done' at an earlier time. Putting a mirror in front of our face is a very good way to see where we are really coming from. Of course, we have to be honest too. That is the tricky part. Saying and doing are two extremes if you say one thing and do another.
If a deed or hurtful thing was done or said and it affects someone that you love and their relationship with their family.......that is enough of a reason to just let the deed or words go and be the higher 'you' and not let it go any further. It is a wise person who knows when to keep your thoughts to yourself (even though it is very difficult at times). If you have done or said something in the past that was hurtful, you must apologize and hopefully it will diffuse the situation. If the other party isn't willing to let it go.....you must gather up every ounce of your 'higher you' and just deal with whatever the circumstances throw at you. Think of it as a learning experience. If you do really learn from it.....all was not lost. Maybe you will feel uncomfortable around that person, but you are doing whatever you have to do for the person you love and when you keep doing the right thing.....all will be all right at some point.
This month will be 17 years since Gommy lost two children in a car accident. It is always a very sad time of the year for Goms. It makes everything else that is going on in the world seem quite incidental and not really very important in the scheme of things. Gommy hopes you never have to experience it, but if you have ever lost a child, you will know what that hurt feels like. If you haven't had to go through it, no one can ever know the depth of pain and the void that it leaves in your heart and life.
So, what Goms is trying to say is I am going to try to stay on the path of looking forward and not backwards. The past is the past and the future is ahead and all we really have is the present. So, if you are holding onto any grudges or feel you must relive past trespasses, try to look beyond and know it is hurting more than just the people involved in the disagreement.
The Holidays are coming and that is a time that should be happy and merry for everyone. It would be very selfish to make everyone else unable to enjoy their Holiday because of a disagreement. Life is too short to ruin even one day.....
So, if anyone out there in 'blogland' needs to apply this blog to your life.....please give it some thought. Let sleeping dogs lie and if you don't want to listen to Gommy, there is a much higher authority you should listen to.........and do as the Bible says; "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us." AMEN and Hugs & Mush, Gommy
