Gommy has found that we are never too old to learn.....I just hope the saying, "You can't teach an old Gommy new tricks" doesn't apply. It never ceases to amaze Goms how some people can be so deceitful and how other people cannot see through them. Goms seems to have the curse of seeing through the most cunning or most blatant fake and it causes Goms' stomach to turn at times.
Have you ever noticed how people act differently depending who is around? Like, they act all 'righty-tighty' when the boss is around and don't give a minutes worth of work for the poor boss when the bosses aren't around. I guess that should fall under the category of, "Shame on the boss for not checking up on the slouches!".
Or they act as if they wouldn't say a mean thing about anyone and they are the exact ones you should never turn your back on. My father used to say, "A leopard doesn't change it's spots.", so if you wait and watch, you can usually 'catch' someone with their true personality coming out at inappropriate times.
Then there is the person who 'says' they are a friend of someone but doesn't truly give a good whip about that 'friend' because they tell you all sorts of things about the 'friend' and the 'friends' family or the 'friends' husband, that if it gets out, could ruin the friend her family and her marriage.
Goms has found that the reason most people are willing to make others look bad, just so they can make themselves look better, is that they don't have good self-esteem themselves, so they try to act like they know all the 'dirt' on someone and they tell it to make it look as if they have the ideal life. NOT....It is actually just the opposite. They have a miserable life and just want some company. Hence the sage adage..."Misery loves company."
People who feel inferior in their intelligence are most often the ones who are the loudest, the brashest, and are mean in their everyday lives. They just can't live with anyone else being happy, so they just stir the pot and try to make everyone else miserable. How sad.
But the good thing, is that we are in control of allowing or not allowing the evil ones to ruin your day your life or your family. Just stay away from them and let time show the type of person they are. They can't hide forever and it is only a matter of time before their true colors show.
Always try to remember that there is usually more than one side to a story. Try to figure out what motives are involved when someone is trying to manipulate a situation. You will usually find that the person who is the manipulator has a hidden agenda. Mostly, it is to cover up their own insecurities and make people think they are all that and a bag of chips.
The worse kind of person in Goms' book is the one that stabs you in the back just to stay on the right side of someone else. Like the saying...."Knowing which side of your bread is buttered on." But remember that you don't have to be a turncoat to stay on someones' good side. Saying nothing is better than betrayal. You should want to do what is right and be able to look yourself in the mirror each day.
So peeps, please stay true to yourself and to your friends and family. Sadly, it is becoming a lost character trait anymore. Good character is something that cannot be bought. It is earned and it only takes a lapse in judgement to lose it and it is very hard to regain.
Have a great day and keep working on being a good friend, family member, mother, father, child, citizen and just all around good person. It is a process and well worth the effort.
