He said that we do things for different reasons. And that it is the differentiation of what we 'get' from doing the deed that is interesting. Like, did I put money in that Salvation Army pot last Christmas Season because it was a wonderful thing to do for people I don't even know? Or was a part of it because it made me feel good about myself? hmmmmmmm
Or, does that wealthy philanthropist get an extra Gold Star for giving away money.....or did they just do it for the write off? You may ask.....what's the difference....as long as something good was done? Welllllll.....the difference is that if we do things for how it makes us look and for the respect we garner from doing it.....then that is Manipulative Power. If, on the other hand, we do the good deed just because it is the right and good thing to do....without any strings attached or wanting any kudos for doing it.....then that is having Authentic Power. And the bonus we do get from the Authentic Power...is that we know we do have respect, especially from ourselves.....because it WAS the right thing to do. I'll take the second one thank you!
When we do something for someone.....without expecting or caring if anyone else sees us do it....then that is from a place of Authentic Power and from love. When someone 'respects' you or feels loyalty to you for what you can give them.....it is only a matter of time before their 'loyalty' will find its way to the next person who gives them a little more. No thanks on that kind of loyalty!
I would say that Mother Teresa was the type that did all the good she did.....just because it was the good and right thing to do. I feel that she didn't expect anything in return. THAT is the good type of feeling we should try to emulate about ourselves.
So.....the next time you do something peeps....ask yourself which power you are using. I would suggest doing it for the Authentic Power and from a place of love. You can do it.....Gommy is pulling for ya'
Hugs and Mush - Gommy
