Hello boys and girls. Happy Tuesday to everyone. Gommy read a comment by a very wise lady (Oriah) today on Facebook and what she said really resonated with me. What she said, in effect, was that expectations, hopes, dreams and change come like the changing of seasons.
We are moving into Autumn right now and we will have one day of blistering heat and the next day, there will be a whiff and a hint of lessening humidity in the air and a little cooler breeze against our faces. Then the next day will be a 'bam in your face' hot day again. This process goes on until we are fully into the next season.
The seasons of our lives and the changes in our lives work the same way. We want to change something in our life and we set out to change it. Say it is a diet.....we are going on a diet this coming Monday. Yeah, been there and done that one before....right? So we start out like gang-busters. We buy all the fresh fruit and veggies and the lean meats and yogurt. Then we stick to the new regiment like that pasty school glue with the bright orange stick in the middle. But we usually have a slip up at some time and we take a few steps back. Then we resolve to start it over. We haven't gotten too far off track yet.....And we forge ahead....AGAIN.
Or take breaking a bad habit. We promise ourselves we are going to stop....biting our nails.....smoking.......gossiping......being so stubborn....arguing, etc. And we are very, very good for a while and then....something derails us. Want to know a little secret? We are the ones that derail ourselves. We can't blame someone else all the time. It isn't easy to change a bad habit. That is why it is called a 'habit'. It is something that we do continually and usually it is done subconsciously.....so it has been ingrained IN us BY us! So, we have to be very aware of what we are thinking and be alert to our old ways and diligently keep a lid on the old booga-boo. Then we will be able to see the change start to manifest.
Staying in the lines isn't easy. Many of us have learned our way of life by repeating the same patterns over and over and over. When things don't change the way we 'wish' they would.....we become grouchy and can't imagine why things stay the same. Albert Enistein quoted that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome. Pretty smart guy, that Albert!
But as long as we realize that there are going to be periods of a few steps forward and a couple of steps back and then going forward again......we may not throw the baby out with the bath water when we are going through these steps of change. Maybe the next time we are trying to change ourselves or a habit we are trying to overcome, we may remember this and be able to stick to whatever it is that we are hoping to change.
Anything worth having is worth the work it takes to get there boys and girls. Don't skip the challenges in life because they are challenging. Don't think that you don't have what it takes to be strong enough to get over or through whatever it is that you want to change. Because you do, you are, and you will. So take it easy on yourself if you 'fall off the wagon'. It isn't the end of the possibility. As long as you try again. There is a good quote on this very subject; "Courage is not always a roar, but sometimes a quite whisper at the end of the night saying, 'I will try again tomorrow". You can do it kiddies......Gommy is pulling for you. Hugs and Mush, Gommy
