Good morning boys and girls. Gommy has had the opportunity to observe several 'family behaviors' in the past week. It always amazes Goms how people can grow up together.....or become blended families and live together or at least know each other for years on end...and something happens or there is a major event that comes up and many of these people reach waaaaay down in their 'psyche pocket' and pull out all the resentments, jealousies, bitterness and foul feelings that they apparently have been harboring for a very long time.
Now, these people are not bad people. They go about their day to day life without exhibiting these deep seeded thoughts to the general public. But the fact that they react they way they do... is proof positive that they have been having these feelings for quite some time.
As to family rearing it's ugly head of sibling rivalry.....that is the most puzzling. You would think that after all these years...you would eventually 'grow up' and realize that the emotions you are feeling today....are the same emotions you felt as a child. Let's say that you always felt one of your siblings was Mom's favorite. Why then, do you take that out on that sibling? They didn't do anything. In fact, if they were the favorite...it was Mom who made you feel that way.....not Tom, or Sally.
Then for the blended families. It is alright to have your feelings about a 'step' him or her...but if you can be civil outside of the blended family to people you don't especially love.....then it would seem you could muster up enough integrity and good character to at least show some respect for everyone else in the 'circle', to be polite and allow the holiday or whatever event there might be.....to be enjoyable.
Sorry to have to bring this to your attention peeps...but it all boils down to selfishness. When you care more about how you feel than EVERYone else....then you are selfish. And just another little hint.....you will have to be the only guest at your pity party, because no one likes a whiner...for very long anyway. If it is all about needing to be noticed...at any cost...then you will always be alone and sad.
So, how about digging waaaaay down in that 'pocket' again and look for that nice emotion that is somewhere in there. You must realize that you are the one missing out on the fun. Because everyone else is going along their happy way and probably aren't even giving you a thought. Errrrrrr.....except that they are glad you aren't around to make everyone else feel uncomfortable.
The Holidays are coming and it is supposed to be the 'most wonderful time of the year'. Put on that happy face and be nice. You can do it.......Gommy is pulling for ya' - Hugs & Mush, Gommy
