Here we are and another week of our lives has passed. Goms hopes everyone had a nice section of life this week and we were all grateful for the many things we should have noticed and been grateful for.
It is sometimes easy to fall into the trap of griping or complaining about our lives. Goms has noticed a new acronym on some social networks lately. It is FML.....now Goms won't say what the 'F' stands for, but we all know it isn't fudge.....and it got Goms to thinking why someone would say that about a wonderful gift such as life.
If there is really something in a persons' life that is miserable or there was an event where they felt 'out of control', like maybe as a child growing up in an unhappy home, being sexually molested as a child, being emotionally abused, etc....you should try and change the way you process that part of your life. Usually it is something that has made us suffer emotionally, and we feel we weren't or are not in 'control' of our life in a certain area. If you let it go on long enough, we end up over-compensating and try to 'control' another area of our life and that can turn into an obsession and that obsession can manifest into an eating disorder (either restriction of calories or eating way too many calories resulting in obesity), or drinking to excess or using drugs to calm our 'crazy talk' in our mind and thinking it helps us cope.
We all have things that may be unpleasant to deal with in our day to day lives, but some things may just be a blessing in disguise if they are no longer a part your life. Take an abusive relationship. Some people stay in that sort of relationship because they feel safe with the 'known', even though it is a terrible way to live. But if the person were to get out of the relationship, their life could take on more meaning and they would eventually feel better about themselves. It isn't easy.....but it is definitely worth it to change that part of their life.
Now, sometimes we don't have a choice about what we leave or what 'leaves' us. Sometimes, things or people are taken from us. How we respond to events in our life, result in how happy or unhappy the rest of our life will be. If it is a loved one....that is a tough one to get through, but it can be done in time. If it is money or things.....you will eventually discover that you are the same person that 'had it all' as the person who is just fine with what you do have now. Try not to get tied up in 'nots'. If you have your health and a loving family.....what else do you really NEED?
Life is ever-changing.....so we had better get used to it and be able to navigate the changes that will affect us every day. But if you really feel you need to change something in your life.....why not start with becoming a 'new growth' in society that returns to being admired for your honesty, be the person who is polite to others once again, be the person who has empathy for the service worker who is just trying to make a living and don't yell at them because you are having a bad day, how about giving the respect you would like to receive from others, how about changing the way we look at the many things that we do have to be grateful for. Focus on the hundreds of things that did go right today; your car started, you had milk in your fridge for your cereal this morning, you had a bed to sleep in last night, you have people and friends who care about you, etc.....instead of the three or four things that may have gone wrong.
So, here's to finding many things to be thankful for this coming week leading up to the big 'THANKSGIVING' day celebration......We shouldn't have just one day that we are thankful....Goms, for one, is thankful EVERY day for my life. Goms is making up her own acronym from now on.... It will be -LML.....(LOVE MY LIFE) and thank you God......Have a great week everyone! ((*.*))
