Now Gommy doesn't know if she is plagiarizing or not, but that phrase sure has a lot of meaning... It can mean something as simple as losing a job you thought you hated to something as horrible as losing a loved one.
We sometimes think something or someone will be around forever and we can enjoy it or them, at our leisure, any time we feel like it. Or maybe that the 'grass has to be greener' than what we are experienceing at the moment. That isn't the case if we don't apreciate our things or cherish our loved ones while we have them.
Take something that may seem to be a pain in the butt to you or maybe just mildly unpleasant. If it is a job......look out! If you don't watch it, there are several people out there who are looking for a job in todays' market. Believe me, you will know what it feels like to NOT have the job any longer and believe it or not, you will miss the job, if not the money it brings in. Remember, you don't say "I'm going to fun." when you are off to work. Unless you are one of the fortunate ones who have found your Dharma and love what you do for your work.
If it is a friend who rubs you the wrong way...don't worry, time will heal that problem because you won't spend as much time with that person and the friendship will just dwindle. Friendship, like any other relationship has to be nurtured. True friends are hard to come by so don't just discard one if they don't fit your perfect criteria of a friend. You may not be the perfect friend yourself, you know. Remember, you have to BE a good friend to HAVE a good friend.
If it is a spouse......the same concepts holds true here, except there are a whole bunch of other calamities that will occur if you just decide to discard a spouse....like your current way of living....like splitting everything from the tea cups to your children, like starting over again and discovering you may not be 'all that and a bag of chips' as you were when you were dating before you married.
If you think your parents are going to be around forever, think again. Gommy knows that parents can be a drag at one of your parties or get togethers, but you will miss them when they are gone. Try to remember that you too will be the parent who may seem bothersome at times and it wouldn't hurt to start building some good Karma for your own old age......
Now some obvious things we miss when we lose them are; our 20/20 vision, smooth skin, a full head of shiny hair, our memories, agility.....you can see where Gommy is going with this. You readers who are still youngish won't understand what Gommy is referring to..... but you will!!!! Some day you will be sitting and rocking in your chair and it will all come back to you. "Now I know what that Gommy was talking about." Gommy hopes when you get of 'a certain age', that you are enjoying a wonderful life with a family that enjoys your company and you have fulfilled most of what you wanted for yourself and your dreams. It goes by in a 'blink of an eye' so start planning what you want your Golden Years to be. If you are one of those youngsters who doesn't get it......humor Gommy and do yourself a BIG favor....start thinking about some of the things you may really miss when you lose them. And you will lose them......Good luck youngins'...............
