Happy Sunday boys and girls.....Today, Goms wants to speak about a persons' reputation and/or character. Gommy recently received one of those email blasts that tell you a joke of the day or a quote or some advertisement.....and the one blast that struck Gommy this morning was one that Goms hadn't thought much about before. Both words were kind of interchangeable to Goms previously, but after thinking on it a bit more, it became evident that they can be totally opposite of each other in meaning. The two terms were; reputation and character. Reputation is what other people think of you ( and it can be good or bad) and character is what you think about yourself and how you conduct your life. Gommy thinks character is much more important than reputation. Like Goms has said before; 'what other people think of you is none of your business'.
Our reputation usually precedes us by what we have accomplished or sometimes, what we have done that isn't always something we can be proud of. Most of us do strive for a good reputation. But you can also acquire a 'bad' reputation by doing things that you or your family wish you hadn't. It is hard to live down a bad reputation. Goms thinks this may be that sadly, people sometimes prefer to believe the bad about us rather than the good for some stinky reason.
A persons' good character, on the other hand, cannot be bought or made up by lying about our good intentions or deeds.....it can only be earned by the way we conduct ourselves. Having a good character requires that we look into our 'proverbial' mirror and be pain-stakingly honest with ourselves about how we roll....(how's that for some up-to-date lingo for Goms? LOL) Character is partly taught to us by our parents and partly developed as we learn how things, circumstances and people should be treated. A person of good character would not take advantage of anyone, would not lie, would not cheat, would not....you get the picture....But a person of good character would.......be considerate of others, be honest with your spouse, friends, co-workers and bosses, show gratitude for a favor done and for all the blessings we have. A person with 'good character' actually cares about their 'reputation' and would not purposely tarnish it by doing anything that would reflect on their character in a harmful way. My mom had a way of saying things that could be harsh, but she was always honest to a fault.....she used to say about someone that wasn't of very good character....."They aren't worth the powder to blow them to hell!" Now, that may be pretty brutal but that is how mom expressed herself....
Sometimes it is hard to do the right thing. People have a tendency to lie to themselves and others when it comes to giving themselves a break or a free pass.....(meaning, it is easier to lie than to admit to wrong doing). It is much harder to do the right thing at times and that is what good character is all about. You can always tell the mettle of a person by how they handle adversity. It is easy to be 'all that and a bag of chips' when things are going rosey...but if you can handle yourself and others with respect when things are 'circling the drain'......that is the mettle (in the position of being incited to do one's best) of 'good character'. Many people are of the mindset that if they are going down, they are bringing everyone with them.....how sad. Just admit when you do wrong and man-up or woman-up to the wrong doing and Goms guarantees you will feel much better about yourself the next time you have to look in that mirror...
Gommy had the honor of helping Grandpa Mike and NFL great Jim Kiick at a charity golf benefit for St. Jude Children's Research Hospital yesterday. Grandpa and Jim Kiick are two people with great reputations but more importantly, great character. They both give tirelessly of themselves to help people and in this case, sick children. Jim Kiick gave a speech yesterday that demonstrated his 'good character'. He said that just as in the game of football, life is a team effort. He said that all the accolades he receives are wonderful but he could not have accomplished all he did in his football career without the rest of the team. (sic) And aren't we are all on the 'team of life' and shouldn't we all be pulling for each other instead at each other?
So, here's to everyones' good reputations and good characters......We are all a work in progress and if we continue to strive to take the high road....we'll get a lot less dirt on us and our reputations in the process...Good luck boys and girls everywhere and just continue to try to do the RIGHT thing.....Hugs and Mush, Gommy
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Thursday, October 22, 2009
"Heal Thyself"
Hello boys and girls. Goms was thinking how many times we hear something but it doesn't click in our minds until we have an 'aha' moment of our own that puts it in perspective. Funny how nothing is too important until it falls on our own doorstep, isn't it?
There are two very special people in Gommy and Grandpa Mikes' life that are seriously ill right now and we don't like it one little bit. It is never pleasant to face the reality that we are all going to leave or be left by people who mean so much to us. But what it does do is make us realize how important the people in our lives are and how every day that we are given is so important and how we shouldn't squander any of our days here on the planet or with the people who we will miss when they are gone.
Then Goms got to thinking about the Proverb in Luke 4:23, that says "Heal Thyself". But how do we heal ourselves? Well, the moral of that particular proverb is to attend to ones' own defects, rather than criticize defects in others. We can start with finding the 'spirit' within ourselves. To know if you are in touch with the spirit within, you will get the 'feeling' of your spirit when you are loving, or you are being creative and when you are happy.
The happy part is a process. There are actually 'happy hormones' that your body secretes when you ARE feeling happy. They are serotonin and dopamine. Those hormones are given to people with depression because they are re-uptake inhibitors to make them feel less depressed. Seretonin is even associated with self-esteem. Then the opiates your body secretes when you are in touch with your 'inner spirit' are the ones that make you feel high, like when you are running or exercising or having a sexual experience. And finally, the oxytocin is the hormone that makes milk come into a mothers' breast for feeding her baby..... but now they have found it is also produced during a sexual orgasm. And an added bonus......while all this is happening, you are actually regulating your immune system. So, if you internally induce a feeling of euphoria, you are healing yourself.....hence, the proverb 'Heal Thyself' is being honored. WOW...that is quite a lot going on just by getting in touch with your spirit. So don't think it is a bunch of hocus-pocus to get in touch with your spirit. We all have a spirit....we just have to get in touch with it more often.
One way to get in touch with our own spirituality is through our relationships. There is a theory that people we love and people we hate are all a mirror of ourselves. That is the paradox. We were attracted to people we are in a relationship with by the traits that we have of our own but we wish we had more of and likewise, people with traits that we dislike and have negative connotations are also traits we have ourselves and are a mirror to our inner 'us' as well. If you put all the traits you like and dislike in a circle.....you will find yourself right smack in the middle of the circle. You don't have to take Gommys' word for it....it just is. If we can just admit this fact...we can learn from it and be all the better for the learning.
There are two very special people in Gommy and Grandpa Mikes' life that are seriously ill right now and we don't like it one little bit. It is never pleasant to face the reality that we are all going to leave or be left by people who mean so much to us. But what it does do is make us realize how important the people in our lives are and how every day that we are given is so important and how we shouldn't squander any of our days here on the planet or with the people who we will miss when they are gone.
Then Goms got to thinking about the Proverb in Luke 4:23, that says "Heal Thyself". But how do we heal ourselves? Well, the moral of that particular proverb is to attend to ones' own defects, rather than criticize defects in others. We can start with finding the 'spirit' within ourselves. To know if you are in touch with the spirit within, you will get the 'feeling' of your spirit when you are loving, or you are being creative and when you are happy.
The happy part is a process. There are actually 'happy hormones' that your body secretes when you ARE feeling happy. They are serotonin and dopamine. Those hormones are given to people with depression because they are re-uptake inhibitors to make them feel less depressed. Seretonin is even associated with self-esteem. Then the opiates your body secretes when you are in touch with your 'inner spirit' are the ones that make you feel high, like when you are running or exercising or having a sexual experience. And finally, the oxytocin is the hormone that makes milk come into a mothers' breast for feeding her baby..... but now they have found it is also produced during a sexual orgasm. And an added bonus......while all this is happening, you are actually regulating your immune system. So, if you internally induce a feeling of euphoria, you are healing yourself.....hence, the proverb 'Heal Thyself' is being honored. WOW...that is quite a lot going on just by getting in touch with your spirit. So don't think it is a bunch of hocus-pocus to get in touch with your spirit. We all have a spirit....we just have to get in touch with it more often.
One way to get in touch with our own spirituality is through our relationships. There is a theory that people we love and people we hate are all a mirror of ourselves. That is the paradox. We were attracted to people we are in a relationship with by the traits that we have of our own but we wish we had more of and likewise, people with traits that we dislike and have negative connotations are also traits we have ourselves and are a mirror to our inner 'us' as well. If you put all the traits you like and dislike in a circle.....you will find yourself right smack in the middle of the circle. You don't have to take Gommys' word for it....it just is. If we can just admit this fact...we can learn from it and be all the better for the learning.
So, as a fun and enlightening experiment, write down the traits you like and dislike in a person and you will find (if you are honest) that we all own both sets of traits. We can improve ourselves by working on the traits that are unpleasant.....Good luck....Have to go now..... UMMMMMMMMM, Gommy has some work to do!!!.....Hugs & Mush.....Goms
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Here's to a Happier YOU!
It's Sunday again.....thank you God....and this is the first day that it really feels like Fall.....at least in South Florida! Fall is the beginning of the lead-up to the Holidays and it is so exciting to know that most people are going to be nicer to each other pretty soon......too bad we can't have that holiday feeling all year. That would certainly be nice, now wouldn't it?
Gommy thinks that the real reason everyone (well most everyone) is nicer around this time of year is that most people are finally on the same page. There is actually a feeling of happy anticipation in the air....a feeling of great expectations.....a feeling that friends and family are really going to get along this year and have a wonderful time together. It reminds Goms about the saying, "Lessons come from our journey, not our destination." (sic) We seem to be in this self-imposed and/or handed down anticipation of 'visions of sugarplums'..... and that really is what we all do want....but somehow it gets all murky when we get to the 'destination'.
Maybe this year we can try to remember that a 'happier you' actually starts and depends on YOU. Maybe you have to come to the 'party' with a different perspective this year if you truly want a happy, merry time. Remember that it is easier to change yourself than to change others. Now, Goms doesn't mean you have to change the core of you....just try to change the way you respond to the situations and celebrations and all the people involved. If you go thinking you are going to have a terrible time because sister Sue is going to be there and she always hogs the show.... or your mom or your mother-in-law is going to show disapproval about how you discipline your kids, or grandma is going to give you some 'old-fashioned' gift that you hate..... you will probably be right....But you can adjust your attitude before you get there and make yourself 'transparent', so it allows any of the unpleasant feelings or unwarranted advice that you usually grab and take 'inside' you ... pass right through you... and voila'....you won't be affected at all. It is a choice. That reminds Goms of a joke about gifts....someone said, "Remember, it's not the gift that counts....it's the receipt." Funny, huh?
Sometimes expecting everything to be perfect is the reason for the letdown after the holidays. Nothing and no one is perfect....remember; 'Perfect' is the enemy of 'Good Enough' and good enough should be GOOD ENOUGH! We are Blessed in so many ways in our life that to be disappointed by an occasion or a gift is really just being a spoiled brat.....sorry, but that is the truth...
So......boys and girls, how about trying to look forward to this holiday season and realize everything won't be 'perfect'....but it can be pretty darn 'good enough'......Start working and practicing on being a 'happier you' right now and you might actually have a nicer holiday this year.....
Hugs & Mush- Goms
Gommy thinks that the real reason everyone (well most everyone) is nicer around this time of year is that most people are finally on the same page. There is actually a feeling of happy anticipation in the air....a feeling of great expectations.....a feeling that friends and family are really going to get along this year and have a wonderful time together. It reminds Goms about the saying, "Lessons come from our journey, not our destination." (sic) We seem to be in this self-imposed and/or handed down anticipation of 'visions of sugarplums'..... and that really is what we all do want....but somehow it gets all murky when we get to the 'destination'.
Maybe this year we can try to remember that a 'happier you' actually starts and depends on YOU. Maybe you have to come to the 'party' with a different perspective this year if you truly want a happy, merry time. Remember that it is easier to change yourself than to change others. Now, Goms doesn't mean you have to change the core of you....just try to change the way you respond to the situations and celebrations and all the people involved. If you go thinking you are going to have a terrible time because sister Sue is going to be there and she always hogs the show.... or your mom or your mother-in-law is going to show disapproval about how you discipline your kids, or grandma is going to give you some 'old-fashioned' gift that you hate..... you will probably be right....But you can adjust your attitude before you get there and make yourself 'transparent', so it allows any of the unpleasant feelings or unwarranted advice that you usually grab and take 'inside' you ... pass right through you... and voila'....you won't be affected at all. It is a choice. That reminds Goms of a joke about gifts....someone said, "Remember, it's not the gift that counts....it's the receipt." Funny, huh?
Sometimes expecting everything to be perfect is the reason for the letdown after the holidays. Nothing and no one is perfect....remember; 'Perfect' is the enemy of 'Good Enough' and good enough should be GOOD ENOUGH! We are Blessed in so many ways in our life that to be disappointed by an occasion or a gift is really just being a spoiled brat.....sorry, but that is the truth...
So......boys and girls, how about trying to look forward to this holiday season and realize everything won't be 'perfect'....but it can be pretty darn 'good enough'......Start working and practicing on being a 'happier you' right now and you might actually have a nicer holiday this year.....
Hugs & Mush- Goms
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Growing Older Isn't ALL Bad
Gommy wants to share something a 90 year old woman from Cleveland, Ohio wrote in a local paper and it says volumes about getting older and all the good things and wisdom that we learn as we age.....Goms has tweaked some to her liking:
1. Life isn't always fair...but it is always good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. The family and friends that you have
taken time with will.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree on some things.
7. Cry with someone. It is more healing than crying alone.
8. It's O.K. to get angry with God.....he can take it.
9. Start saving for retirement...... with your first paycheck.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up your future.
11. It's O.K. to let your children see you cry.
12. Don't compare your life with others....you have no idea what their journey is about.
13. If a relationship has to be a secret.....you shouldn't be in it.
14. Things can change in a blink of an eye....but don't worry....God never blinks.
15. Take a deep breath...it calms the mind.
16. Get rid of anything in your life that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
17.Whatever doesn't kill you....really does make you stronger.
18. It's never too late to have a happy childhood...but the second one is up to you.
19. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy nightgown.....don't save it for a
special occasion......today IS special.
20. Prepare...........then go with the flow.
21. Don't wait....be eccentric now.
22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
23. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
24. Frame every potential 'disaster' with, "In five years will this matter?"
25. Forgive everyone - everything.
26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. Time heals most everything.....give time TIME.
28. However good or bad a situation is...........it will change.
29. Don't take yourself so seriously...........no one else does.
30. Believe in miracles.
31. God loves you because of who God is....not because of anything you did.
32. Growing old beats the alternative.
33. Your children only have one childhood.
34. Stay on the right side of the sod....
35. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
36. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
37. No matter how you feel..... get up, get dressed and get out.....
38. Yield.
39. If we all threw our problems in a pile, and got to see everyone elses'....we'd pick ours.
AND MAYBE THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE OF ALL!!!!
40. Life may not always be tied in a pretty bow....but it is still a gift.
Hope you got something out of some or all of these gems...Have a great day boys and girl. Hugs & Mush, Gommy
1. Life isn't always fair...but it is always good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. The family and friends that you have
taken time with will.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree on some things.
7. Cry with someone. It is more healing than crying alone.
8. It's O.K. to get angry with God.....he can take it.
9. Start saving for retirement...... with your first paycheck.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up your future.
11. It's O.K. to let your children see you cry.
12. Don't compare your life with others....you have no idea what their journey is about.
13. If a relationship has to be a secret.....you shouldn't be in it.
14. Things can change in a blink of an eye....but don't worry....God never blinks.
15. Take a deep breath...it calms the mind.
16. Get rid of anything in your life that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
17.Whatever doesn't kill you....really does make you stronger.
18. It's never too late to have a happy childhood...but the second one is up to you.
19. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy nightgown.....don't save it for a
special occasion......today IS special.
20. Prepare...........then go with the flow.
21. Don't wait....be eccentric now.
22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
23. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
24. Frame every potential 'disaster' with, "In five years will this matter?"
25. Forgive everyone - everything.
26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. Time heals most everything.....give time TIME.
28. However good or bad a situation is...........it will change.
29. Don't take yourself so seriously...........no one else does.
30. Believe in miracles.
31. God loves you because of who God is....not because of anything you did.
32. Growing old beats the alternative.
33. Your children only have one childhood.
34. Stay on the right side of the sod....
35. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
36. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
37. No matter how you feel..... get up, get dressed and get out.....
38. Yield.
39. If we all threw our problems in a pile, and got to see everyone elses'....we'd pick ours.
AND MAYBE THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE OF ALL!!!!
40. Life may not always be tied in a pretty bow....but it is still a gift.
Hope you got something out of some or all of these gems...Have a great day boys and girl. Hugs & Mush, Gommy
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
A Great Big Thank You !
Gommy wants to say 'Thank You' to all my 'peeps' today......those would be all the nice people who follow 'gommysgoodies' and have taken the time to tell Goms how inspired they are by my 'blogs' and how I should never quit writing them because they read them every day and look forward to each blog and how they get so much out of it....Wellllll, Hallelujah!!!!....that is exactly why Gommy writes her blogs....to help people with things in their life, through examples of times in my life. Sometimes we need to hear what other people are going through to realize we are not going through it alone or that we are not the only ones going through a tough time. It must be working because it is very nice to hear how much Gommy touches so many people. Aw shucks..........you are making Gommy blush :-))) THANK YOU GUYS.....
There are so many things Gommy has in her mind that I can pass on to people. Like the examples of what Gommy did or went through at sad or troubling times in my life. Or the happy times Gommy has shared with my children and grandchildren and how it is not wise to over-step your childrens' parenting choices with their children....Or how to avoid trouble at the Holidays or different family get-togethers of our lives.....Now, some of these examples may work for some people and may definitely not be the way to go for another person...........but if anything that Goms has gone through can help someone else.....I'll be happy to share. So, all you followers out there who like my blogs......I'll be around for a while....God willing....AMEN !!!
So many times in our life, we wonder, "Am I the only one who feels this way?" Or..... "How can I or how should I handle this or that?" It helps it come into focus if we hear how someone else handles things. But, if you like Goms advice, you would love it if Grandpa Mike had a blog....He would tell you some of his ideas on handling certain things that come up in ones life. Grandpa Mike is a perfect example of a very good person. No, really....I can't emphasize it enough that he is a VERY good person.....There is even a picture of Grandpa Mike in the dictionary under - VERY GOOD PEOPLE ;) !!!! He is truly abnormally fair with issues or confrontations that arise and he never gets flustered. Geesh....that is hard to do! Sometimes Gommy doesn't like to admit that he is right, if we are the ones having the disagreement, but if Goms gives it a few days, it becomes clearer that Grandpa Mike has made some very good points. In altercations or disagreements of any proportion, he keeps his head clear, never raises his voice and can weigh both sides of an issue....WOW...how does he do that? AND he does it without bias.....That is the trickiest part, because we all have biases. It is innate. But, somehow he does it. If more people were like Grandpa, there would be a whole lot more peace in the world and a lot less nastiness....
So, some of the 'wisdom' Gommy shares, has been learned over the 24 years of living with Grandpa Mike and observing how he behaves. It is harder to do than to admire in him though.....I'll tell you that for sure....But I guess we can all learn from our spouses if we give it a chance. Remember, there is a lid for every pot....and Grandpa is my lid. Thank you God. We have gone through a lot in our years together and what Goms has come to learn is that old saying, "What doesn't kill you makes you closer and stronger"....and we surely are a very strong and much closer couple. I am grateful for the years we have been lucky enough to share together. He is my rock.....Thank you Grandpa!
Once again...let Gommy say thank you to all of you nice and thoughtful people who have taken the time to let me know that you like and appreciate what Goms has to say and share with you......See you next time boys and girls. Hugs & Mush, Gommy
(PS....B.B.F.-you know who you are sweetie- I never wrote anything in any of my blogs about what happened all those years ago about you......my blogs are MY blogs and some times we may 'think' it is about us (or anyone) because it hits a nerve in us.....but it wasn't about you....promise......still love you sweetie....and always will) ;)
There are so many things Gommy has in her mind that I can pass on to people. Like the examples of what Gommy did or went through at sad or troubling times in my life. Or the happy times Gommy has shared with my children and grandchildren and how it is not wise to over-step your childrens' parenting choices with their children....Or how to avoid trouble at the Holidays or different family get-togethers of our lives.....Now, some of these examples may work for some people and may definitely not be the way to go for another person...........but if anything that Goms has gone through can help someone else.....I'll be happy to share. So, all you followers out there who like my blogs......I'll be around for a while....God willing....AMEN !!!
So many times in our life, we wonder, "Am I the only one who feels this way?" Or..... "How can I or how should I handle this or that?" It helps it come into focus if we hear how someone else handles things. But, if you like Goms advice, you would love it if Grandpa Mike had a blog....He would tell you some of his ideas on handling certain things that come up in ones life. Grandpa Mike is a perfect example of a very good person. No, really....I can't emphasize it enough that he is a VERY good person.....There is even a picture of Grandpa Mike in the dictionary under - VERY GOOD PEOPLE ;) !!!! He is truly abnormally fair with issues or confrontations that arise and he never gets flustered. Geesh....that is hard to do! Sometimes Gommy doesn't like to admit that he is right, if we are the ones having the disagreement, but if Goms gives it a few days, it becomes clearer that Grandpa Mike has made some very good points. In altercations or disagreements of any proportion, he keeps his head clear, never raises his voice and can weigh both sides of an issue....WOW...how does he do that? AND he does it without bias.....That is the trickiest part, because we all have biases. It is innate. But, somehow he does it. If more people were like Grandpa, there would be a whole lot more peace in the world and a lot less nastiness....
So, some of the 'wisdom' Gommy shares, has been learned over the 24 years of living with Grandpa Mike and observing how he behaves. It is harder to do than to admire in him though.....I'll tell you that for sure....But I guess we can all learn from our spouses if we give it a chance. Remember, there is a lid for every pot....and Grandpa is my lid. Thank you God. We have gone through a lot in our years together and what Goms has come to learn is that old saying, "What doesn't kill you makes you closer and stronger"....and we surely are a very strong and much closer couple. I am grateful for the years we have been lucky enough to share together. He is my rock.....Thank you Grandpa!
Once again...let Gommy say thank you to all of you nice and thoughtful people who have taken the time to let me know that you like and appreciate what Goms has to say and share with you......See you next time boys and girls. Hugs & Mush, Gommy
(PS....B.B.F.-you know who you are sweetie- I never wrote anything in any of my blogs about what happened all those years ago about you......my blogs are MY blogs and some times we may 'think' it is about us (or anyone) because it hits a nerve in us.....but it wasn't about you....promise......still love you sweetie....and always will) ;)
Monday, October 12, 2009
We Don't Get to Choose....
HAPPY COLUMBUS DAY EVERYONE!!!! Hope some of you out there in blogland got the day off.....
Today, Gommy wants to talk about life situations that involve the people in our lives. It turns out in life, work, family, in-laws, school, exchanges with our exes and on and on, and virtually in every chance meeting or relationship we have.......that we don't always get to choose who we communicate or MIS-communicate with. We may not enjoy being with the people we have to interact with, but what we do have to figure out is a way to get along with each other. We do live in a CIVIL-ization......so we must, at least, be civil. That is because we are going to be sharing a dorm room, our work space, a lab desk, a seat in the car of our carpool, time with our kids friends and parents at sporting events, and the BIGGIE of allllll.........a place at the Thanksgiving Day table with family, in-laws, extended family and friends...... and friends of friends. Some of which we can't abide and would never choose to spend time with except that it is expected at certain times.....YIKES!!!!
Darn.......why does it have to be so hard to act the way we are supposed to act? But....how exactly are we supposed to act??? What IS normal? Is it normal to have to act a certain way when we know someone doesn't want to be around us either? And are we are expected to act 'normally', all the while we are passing the mashed potatoes?.....Doesn't feel so normal does it????
It makes us seem mean to want to avoid some people but it can be very uncomfortable just being around certain people, like if you work with them every day..... and what are we supposed to do with those emotions???? Gommy suggests to try not to let those feelings define us......There are always going to be people who we would rather not spend time with, but it is mandatory.....sooooooo we had better find a way to enjoy the time we have to spend while in their company.
First, try to find something likable about them...........not working yet? Keep trying....I bet none of us are so perfect that EVERYONE loves to be around us all the time either. Like Goms has 'preached' so many times in other blogs.....be the person to others that you want them to be to you. It really is true that kindness begets kindness, gratefulness begets gratefulness, forgiveness begets forgiveness, etc. etc., etc. Just the same way that meanness begets meanness, hatefulness begets hatefulness, jealousy begets jealousy, etc., etc., etc. Goms knows it can be VERY hard to hide how we are feeling....but the end result could be that we have a more pleasant time than we were dreading.....
If we could all just feel in our hearts the way the 'Currier and Ives' paintings make us feel, with the snow covered lanes and the horses carrying families to relatives homes, we would have good tidings and cheer and best wishes for everyone. It can't be that hard now can it? Sadly, Gommy thinks it must be that hard or things would be a lot more peaceful in the world. Because people would be putting other peoples' feelings into the scenario before they lashed out or said something hurtful. It all goes back to the "Do Unto Others" proverb.
Soooooo, seeing we sometimes don't get to choose who we will be spending time with.....try to be coming up with ideas of how to make this a much nicer Holiday Season for everyone. If you can't think of ways to get along.....you better think of ways of how to 'deal'....'cause it's happening......ready or not.....Have a nice day everyone and start jotting down things that will make this next Holiday a more peaceful one. It may be that we just have to keep our mouths shut.....except for when we are eating that delicious turkey and mashed potatoes ......Hugs and Mush, Gommy ((*.*))
Today, Gommy wants to talk about life situations that involve the people in our lives. It turns out in life, work, family, in-laws, school, exchanges with our exes and on and on, and virtually in every chance meeting or relationship we have.......that we don't always get to choose who we communicate or MIS-communicate with. We may not enjoy being with the people we have to interact with, but what we do have to figure out is a way to get along with each other. We do live in a CIVIL-ization......so we must, at least, be civil. That is because we are going to be sharing a dorm room, our work space, a lab desk, a seat in the car of our carpool, time with our kids friends and parents at sporting events, and the BIGGIE of allllll.........a place at the Thanksgiving Day table with family, in-laws, extended family and friends...... and friends of friends. Some of which we can't abide and would never choose to spend time with except that it is expected at certain times.....YIKES!!!!
Darn.......why does it have to be so hard to act the way we are supposed to act? But....how exactly are we supposed to act??? What IS normal? Is it normal to have to act a certain way when we know someone doesn't want to be around us either? And are we are expected to act 'normally', all the while we are passing the mashed potatoes?.....Doesn't feel so normal does it????
It makes us seem mean to want to avoid some people but it can be very uncomfortable just being around certain people, like if you work with them every day..... and what are we supposed to do with those emotions???? Gommy suggests to try not to let those feelings define us......There are always going to be people who we would rather not spend time with, but it is mandatory.....sooooooo we had better find a way to enjoy the time we have to spend while in their company.
First, try to find something likable about them...........not working yet? Keep trying....I bet none of us are so perfect that EVERYONE loves to be around us all the time either. Like Goms has 'preached' so many times in other blogs.....be the person to others that you want them to be to you. It really is true that kindness begets kindness, gratefulness begets gratefulness, forgiveness begets forgiveness, etc. etc., etc. Just the same way that meanness begets meanness, hatefulness begets hatefulness, jealousy begets jealousy, etc., etc., etc. Goms knows it can be VERY hard to hide how we are feeling....but the end result could be that we have a more pleasant time than we were dreading.....
If we could all just feel in our hearts the way the 'Currier and Ives' paintings make us feel, with the snow covered lanes and the horses carrying families to relatives homes, we would have good tidings and cheer and best wishes for everyone. It can't be that hard now can it? Sadly, Gommy thinks it must be that hard or things would be a lot more peaceful in the world. Because people would be putting other peoples' feelings into the scenario before they lashed out or said something hurtful. It all goes back to the "Do Unto Others" proverb.
Soooooo, seeing we sometimes don't get to choose who we will be spending time with.....try to be coming up with ideas of how to make this a much nicer Holiday Season for everyone. If you can't think of ways to get along.....you better think of ways of how to 'deal'....'cause it's happening......ready or not.....Have a nice day everyone and start jotting down things that will make this next Holiday a more peaceful one. It may be that we just have to keep our mouths shut.....except for when we are eating that delicious turkey and mashed potatoes ......Hugs and Mush, Gommy ((*.*))
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Social Networks
Happy Sunday all you sweeties out there in blogland. You know who you are and sadly, apparently there are some who it turns out aren't such sweeties out there and they know who they are as well.
That brings Gommy to thinking about Social Networks and how they can go all wrong if left in the hands of the wrong people. But it will never change that, how does the old saying go?...... 'one bad apple can ruin the whole barrel'. It has come to Goms' attention lately that some people are taking offense and hurting others with these wonderful sites. Goms knows that wasn't the intention of the brilliant young people who invented and developed all the new sites that allow us to keep in touch with friends and family.
Gommy hadn't even heard of Facebook a few months ago.But after joining Facebook and absolutely loving how it was so easy reconnecting with friends from my waaaaay, waaaaay long ago past and with family and even my current friends and friends I was missing in the last place Grandpa and I lived, Goms just loved being able to keep up with everyone. Facebook has even been a conduit to sharing this blog with more people.
A friend of mine just unsubscribed to Facebook yesterday and I was so sad to hear that. Apparently it had caused some problems at work when other people read something they didn't like or something.....If the truth be known, what they read had nothing to do with them, but being the human beings we all are.....we assume everything HAS to be about us....right???? NO...that isn't right. Things only touch your heart or make you mad if you HAVE done something that you are taking offense to. These networks were meant to stay and keep in touch with people more easily and for us to write a 'short' update about what we are doing, what our kids are doing or show pictures of the kids and grandkids....yada,yada,yada. It was not meant to discuss politics, your sex life, someone you don't like at work, your personal finances......those are things that ARE and should STAY personal and private or you can put in a blog if you don't think or care if they will cause you any repercussions. Goms even answered a few times about some political issues until I realized that I don't really care what other people think about my politics.....that is why they are MINE....
Now, let Goms state again, right now, that this is Goms' opinion......and it is still a free country, so I will continue to blog about MY opinions.......if anyone doesn't like what I blog about......sorry, but maybe you shouldn't click onto my site. There are plenty of other generic blogs out there to read that are about flowers, photography, nature.....etc., you know blogs that can't offend you.
Another thing that Goms thinks can come back to hurt you someday is when you put something that is distasteful or 'dirty' on your site page. Goms sees all sorts of things that people 'share' out there on these networks that can come back to 'haunt' them when they get out of college and their boss looks up their 'status page' to see what sort of person is applying for some prestigious position....and don't think just because you didn't 'friend' them that they can't see it through someone else's Facebook page. Remember.....all this stuff is out there in the Ethernet FOREVER!!!! YIKES :0).......I remember something my grandmother used to say that was a quote from a 1600's clergyman named Thomas Fuller.....it was ...., 'Fools names and fools faces always appear in public places.' (sic) What Goms thinks he meant is that 'foolish' people don't stop to think how something will affect them or a friend or family member by putting 'stuff' out there for everyone to see and read. Remember Goms' blog on using a 'filter'.....(the one you should use in your thinking brain BEFORE you share it with the whole world........?
Soooooo take a deep breath boys and girls and people all over.....and start thinking with your brain before you engage your fingers on the keyboard, to how it will affect someone or anyone that is going to read it. And they ARE going to read it......... Have a great week everyone..........Gommy is surely going to have a great week... ;) Hugs and Mush to all!!!!
That brings Gommy to thinking about Social Networks and how they can go all wrong if left in the hands of the wrong people. But it will never change that, how does the old saying go?...... 'one bad apple can ruin the whole barrel'. It has come to Goms' attention lately that some people are taking offense and hurting others with these wonderful sites. Goms knows that wasn't the intention of the brilliant young people who invented and developed all the new sites that allow us to keep in touch with friends and family.
Gommy hadn't even heard of Facebook a few months ago.But after joining Facebook and absolutely loving how it was so easy reconnecting with friends from my waaaaay, waaaaay long ago past and with family and even my current friends and friends I was missing in the last place Grandpa and I lived, Goms just loved being able to keep up with everyone. Facebook has even been a conduit to sharing this blog with more people.
A friend of mine just unsubscribed to Facebook yesterday and I was so sad to hear that. Apparently it had caused some problems at work when other people read something they didn't like or something.....If the truth be known, what they read had nothing to do with them, but being the human beings we all are.....we assume everything HAS to be about us....right???? NO...that isn't right. Things only touch your heart or make you mad if you HAVE done something that you are taking offense to. These networks were meant to stay and keep in touch with people more easily and for us to write a 'short' update about what we are doing, what our kids are doing or show pictures of the kids and grandkids....yada,yada,yada. It was not meant to discuss politics, your sex life, someone you don't like at work, your personal finances......those are things that ARE and should STAY personal and private or you can put in a blog if you don't think or care if they will cause you any repercussions. Goms even answered a few times about some political issues until I realized that I don't really care what other people think about my politics.....that is why they are MINE....
Now, let Goms state again, right now, that this is Goms' opinion......and it is still a free country, so I will continue to blog about MY opinions.......if anyone doesn't like what I blog about......sorry, but maybe you shouldn't click onto my site. There are plenty of other generic blogs out there to read that are about flowers, photography, nature.....etc., you know blogs that can't offend you.
Another thing that Goms thinks can come back to hurt you someday is when you put something that is distasteful or 'dirty' on your site page. Goms sees all sorts of things that people 'share' out there on these networks that can come back to 'haunt' them when they get out of college and their boss looks up their 'status page' to see what sort of person is applying for some prestigious position....and don't think just because you didn't 'friend' them that they can't see it through someone else's Facebook page. Remember.....all this stuff is out there in the Ethernet FOREVER!!!! YIKES :0).......I remember something my grandmother used to say that was a quote from a 1600's clergyman named Thomas Fuller.....it was ...., 'Fools names and fools faces always appear in public places.' (sic) What Goms thinks he meant is that 'foolish' people don't stop to think how something will affect them or a friend or family member by putting 'stuff' out there for everyone to see and read. Remember Goms' blog on using a 'filter'.....(the one you should use in your thinking brain BEFORE you share it with the whole world........?
Soooooo take a deep breath boys and girls and people all over.....and start thinking with your brain before you engage your fingers on the keyboard, to how it will affect someone or anyone that is going to read it. And they ARE going to read it......... Have a great week everyone..........Gommy is surely going to have a great week... ;) Hugs and Mush to all!!!!
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