Hi boys and girls. Hope everyone is doing well on this beautiful day. Today, Gommy wants to talk about having faith in knowing what we want in life. And the fear that develops when we think of changing anything in order to achieve whatever it is that we want.
Gommy read a quote by Usman Asif that said, "Fear is a darkroom, where negatives develop." That is so true when you think about it. We start out thinking about something we want, like maybe a new and exciting career and then we start that dreaded 'monkey-talk' and say to ourselves, 'Oh no, what if XYZ happens and it doesn't work out?....' or the thought that, 'I better stay right where I am because I don't know what I'll find somewhere else.' What this really translates into is a fear of change. We are creatures of habit and many of us don't like to go out of our comfort zones. We would rather loll around in our unfulfilled existence than to 'go for it'....
We choose to believe that we may go 'from the frying pan into the fire', rather than think we might actually be making a better life, career or place in the world for ourselves by the change. Why is that? Why is it so much easier to expect or accept the worst? We do have a 50/50 chance of it being the right decision, don't we???? We have to have faith sometimes, that things will turn out for the better every once in a while. Another quote that is applicable here is from Mary Morrissey. It states that, "You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith." Another good morsel to help you 'change' the way you think about things.
If we can learn to change without the dread part always creeping in, we can adapt more easily to a variety of situations. I have heard people say they felt sorry for a certain person because they had gone to several different schools while they were growing up. But, if you look at the people who did have different experiences in life (for whatever reason)....they seem to have an easier time speaking with new people, making friends with new people, and they are usually well-adjusted adults who can carry on conversations with people who don't necessarily have to be just like them. I'd say that is a good asset and a learning tool that they developed by meeting new people and facing new situations.
When we over-worry, we tend to become 'numb-brained' (another of Gommy's technical terms)....that is to say we get frozen in the thoughts we keep telling ourselves. You know....the old deer in the headlight syndrome. If we could learn to relax about possible mistakes we may make....we might become more at ease about change the next time an opportunity comes up. And when we find that it wasn't the end of the world and we are still upright and taking in nourishment.....we may just begin to trust ourselves with future thoughts about what we want. And then we won't fear the thought that we might have to change a few things in order to fulfill the idea. Change can be 'life-changing' but it doesn't have to be 'life-ending'.
And for all you boys and girls who are 'stuck' in whatever it is you are stuck in, and are afraid to change something because of what someone else may think of it.....STOP that. You'd be very surprised to know how very little people actually think about you or what you are doing. Oh, they may make a snide remark about your choice....but deep down they wish they had the guts to change something in their lives.
So, do you want to stay in your safe little 'prison' just so someone who is talking junk about you anyway, thinks more of you? Not this Gommy. We all get to live one life....OUR OWN. If you want to give yours away.....it is yours to give....but do you really want to give something away that is so precious to someone who doesn't really care all that much about you in the first place? Gommy thought not.....
So, think about something you would like to change in your life. Make it something small at first. Take little, tiny steps....and then bigger ones, until you change something you wished you could. It could be as small as not eating after eight o'clock at night. That may be a biggie to some noshers who like to watch TV and eat....or you can try going home from work a different way. Just little changes and then build up to bigger changes. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater though. We don't want a bunch of 'brain-numbing' 'deer in the headlight' peeps walking around wondering where the heck is my cheese.....That phrase is from a motivational book called "Who Moved my Cheese?"
The book, "Who Moved my Cheese?", is a parable for how change affects two little mice. The moral the book is trying to teach us is that: 1) "Change Happens= so keep the cheese moving 2) Anticipate Change= prepare and get ready for the cheese to move 3) Monitor the Change= Smell the cheese every once in a while to see if it is starting to smell 4) Adapt to Change Quickly= the quicker you let go of the old cheese, the sooner you can start enjoying the new cheese 5) Change! = Move with the Cheese 6) Enjoy the Change = Savor the taste of the new cheese, and finally 7) Be Ready for the next time to change quickly and enjoy it again and again = be willing to keep moving the cheese!
One of the little mice asks at one point, "What would you do if you weren't afraid?" Now that is a biggie. The simple answer to that question is that you leave fear behind. So my little mice friends....take a chance...move or change your cheese a little bit! You may just find that there is a plethora of cheeses out there that you have never tasted.....and there are some pretty good ones too. If you've only tasted Cheddar, Swiss or American...you are in for a treat when you get a taste of Gouda or Brie or............go on.......you can do it....Gommy is pulling for you! Hugs & Mush, Gommy
Thursday, August 5, 2010
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
The Seasons of Our Lives
Hello boys and girls. Gommy is feeling very melancholy today. My sweet son-in-law, John, sent me a beautiful inspirational power-point piece that would bring a tear to most people's eyes.....and especially to a Gommy who has learned so much in the Autumn of my own life.
It was all about how we should not judge anyone or anything by just one glimpse or encounter. There is a saying that Gommy likes and it is: "If you knew me many years ago.....you don't know me now, because I'm not that person any longer."
The beautiful piece tells a story of a father who sends his four sons out to look at a tree and to come back and tell the father what they saw. The first son went out in Winter. The second son went out in Spring. The third son, in Summer and the fourth son went out in Fall. When they had all gone and returned, they each came back to explain what they had observed (judged). The son who had gone in Winter said he saw an ugly tree, all bent and twisted, with no leaves on it and not very pretty at all. The son who went out in the Spring, said he saw a tree that was dotted with green buds and blossoms that smelled of sweetness. The third son who went in Summer told of a tree teeming with buds, blooms and leaves that were full of promise. The last son went in Fall and told of a tree laden with fruit that was full of life and fulfillment.
The Father told the sons they were all right. But that their perception was only of one season for the tree. To fully understand the tree, they would have had to see all of the seasons of the tree and not judge it from one season alone.
We all have seasons of our lives. And the joy and sadness, and the successes and disappointments, and the loves and losses all make up who we are. It went on to say that if we give up in the Winter of our lives, we miss the promise of fulfillment in another season. We mustn't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of a season yet to come. We also must not judge anyone by only one season of their life. We are a combination of all of our seasons and everything that has happened to us in our lives.
The piece explains that our happy times keep us sweet.....our trials and tribulations make us strong...our failures make us humble and our sorrows keep us human....our faith keeps us growing....but it is God who keeps us going!
This is so true and when you think about it for a while.....you will see how true it really is. When you think back on your own life, you can remember times that you were happy, or sad, or scared....and you can see how each of those times had an impact on your attitude or disposition. We are a culmination of every experience we live. How we react to each instance....is how the rest of our life will turn out.
Live your life with optimism....don't be negative. Look for things to be grateful for because they are everywhere. Maybe you don't have everything you wish you had....but you do have much to be thankful for. And remember that there is always someone who has much less. It is also important to remember that we haven't earned the most prized of these possessions.....our lives. Our life was given to us through the Grace of God. Grace cannot be earned......it is given. So be 'graceful' in life. And as the piece goes on to say......Live Simply....Love generously....Care deeply.......Speak kindly.....and leave the rest to God....May God continue to Bless each and every one of you.....Hugs & Mush, Gommy PS...Thank you John
It was all about how we should not judge anyone or anything by just one glimpse or encounter. There is a saying that Gommy likes and it is: "If you knew me many years ago.....you don't know me now, because I'm not that person any longer."
The beautiful piece tells a story of a father who sends his four sons out to look at a tree and to come back and tell the father what they saw. The first son went out in Winter. The second son went out in Spring. The third son, in Summer and the fourth son went out in Fall. When they had all gone and returned, they each came back to explain what they had observed (judged). The son who had gone in Winter said he saw an ugly tree, all bent and twisted, with no leaves on it and not very pretty at all. The son who went out in the Spring, said he saw a tree that was dotted with green buds and blossoms that smelled of sweetness. The third son who went in Summer told of a tree teeming with buds, blooms and leaves that were full of promise. The last son went in Fall and told of a tree laden with fruit that was full of life and fulfillment.
The Father told the sons they were all right. But that their perception was only of one season for the tree. To fully understand the tree, they would have had to see all of the seasons of the tree and not judge it from one season alone.
We all have seasons of our lives. And the joy and sadness, and the successes and disappointments, and the loves and losses all make up who we are. It went on to say that if we give up in the Winter of our lives, we miss the promise of fulfillment in another season. We mustn't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of a season yet to come. We also must not judge anyone by only one season of their life. We are a combination of all of our seasons and everything that has happened to us in our lives.
The piece explains that our happy times keep us sweet.....our trials and tribulations make us strong...our failures make us humble and our sorrows keep us human....our faith keeps us growing....but it is God who keeps us going!
This is so true and when you think about it for a while.....you will see how true it really is. When you think back on your own life, you can remember times that you were happy, or sad, or scared....and you can see how each of those times had an impact on your attitude or disposition. We are a culmination of every experience we live. How we react to each instance....is how the rest of our life will turn out.
Live your life with optimism....don't be negative. Look for things to be grateful for because they are everywhere. Maybe you don't have everything you wish you had....but you do have much to be thankful for. And remember that there is always someone who has much less. It is also important to remember that we haven't earned the most prized of these possessions.....our lives. Our life was given to us through the Grace of God. Grace cannot be earned......it is given. So be 'graceful' in life. And as the piece goes on to say......Live Simply....Love generously....Care deeply.......Speak kindly.....and leave the rest to God....May God continue to Bless each and every one of you.....Hugs & Mush, Gommy PS...Thank you John
Friday, July 30, 2010
Inspired or Just Tired?
Hello out there everyone! Gommy recently received a question in the comment section of her Facebook page asking how Gommy knows just what this person was thinking all the time. It made Gommy think how we are all in the same boat, so to speak, but how odd it is that most people think that the experiences they are having, or the thoughts they are thinking, are solely theirs. Gommy gains inspiration from knowing it is better to watch rather than suggest (unless asked), think and listen before talking, and try to understand why someone feels as they do instead of judge them. When someone is un-inspired or just plain tired....it is usually because they have lost their passion in life.
Every new Mommy thinks she is the first woman who has ever bore a child. So,the Gommy's of the world just sit back (that is if she knows what's good for her and the Mommy's relationship) and marvels how she raised her own children and somehow she is now considered to know nothing of raising this new grandchild. Or a person who has been in the workplace for forty or fifty years, then all of a sudden is considered un-knowledgeable when the new upstart replaces them at their job. Or the presumption that anyone else cannot possibly know how it feels to lose a loved one, or have an unhappy marriage, or think other peoples' belief systems have been skewed and are totally wrong.
Guess what folks? Every thought you have ever thought, every situation you have ever found yourself in, every disappointment you have ever had, every happiness you have been Blessed with....has been thought, felt and experienced by a myriad of other people throughout time.
Gommy would bet that there are a bunch of Mommy's out there that feel guilty for thinking they would like some time to themselves. Time away from their family. How dare they!!!! But you know a little secret? Goms has been there and done that.....and so have bazillions of other women throughout history (if they are honest). Why??? Because life is very stressful at times and many times, when you are trying to take it one day at a time.....the whole week falls on top of you! There are no manuals to doing it all right, getting it all done, showing you how you are supposed to be a perfect little wife, mom, counselor, taxi-driver, daughter, friend, housemaid, femme fatale' , employee....YIKES....no wonder you want to get away and just focus on YOU!!! So relax moms of the world......you are quite normal. Gommy would actually think you were abnormal if you didn't need a little R&R sometimes. Remember...."Ain't nobody happy if Mama ain't happy!" No truer words were ever spoken. If you don't take care of yourselves....how can you take care of everyone else??? The same goes for Dads....they need their time to enjoy their sports, hobbies, and interests too.
Then on the idea of being downsized (another word for a nasty way to treat people). This seems to be happening quite often lately. It boils down to 'attempting' to get the same thing for a cheaper price. But, the reality is you get what you pay for and as my Grandma used to say, "You just can't get a silk purse out of a sows ear." Meaning, the newbie is just that...full of schooling but lacking in the years and years of experience you have with the person who has worked their way up the ladder and given their loyalty to their position. Eastern cultures have the right idea......they revere and cherish their elderly.....they know that with age comes wisdom. There are no shortcuts. You have to live it to know what the heck you are doing and what not to do to screw oops...mess things up.
But now onto the inspired part. Inspiration comes from two words; In and Spirit. If you are in spirit, you will have passion. You will know instinctively what makes sense and what you want to do and how to get there. If you live your life and feel your intentions with passion....you will succeed. The great speaker Wayne Dyer says that, "to attempt to manifest what you want without passion is like dressing up a corpse." Or as my same, smart Grandma used to say, "You're all dressed up with no place to go!" You may be going through the motions but you aren't getting anywhere.
Think of a time in your life when you were inspired. It could have been the first time you fell in love. Every waking moment was spent thinking about the object of your affections. Just the thought of them made you all tingly inside. THAT is inspiration boys and girls. Or maybe you wanted to BE a certain something, i.e. a singer, an artist, an XYZ.....you thought about it, planned for it, envisioned yourself as it......again....you felt inspired boys and girls.
So, how about trying to find something to feel inspired about again. It's never too late.....One of Gommys' favorite sayings is..."It's never too late to live happily ever after." You can start today....don't waste a single day of this wonderful life you have been given. Go to the beach or to the mountains, look at a baby or heck, just look in the mirror....you are pretty inspirational you know. There is no one else just exactly like you. It's worth finding again. Gommy is pulling for you......Hugs & Mush
Every new Mommy thinks she is the first woman who has ever bore a child. So,the Gommy's of the world just sit back (that is if she knows what's good for her and the Mommy's relationship) and marvels how she raised her own children and somehow she is now considered to know nothing of raising this new grandchild. Or a person who has been in the workplace for forty or fifty years, then all of a sudden is considered un-knowledgeable when the new upstart replaces them at their job. Or the presumption that anyone else cannot possibly know how it feels to lose a loved one, or have an unhappy marriage, or think other peoples' belief systems have been skewed and are totally wrong.
Guess what folks? Every thought you have ever thought, every situation you have ever found yourself in, every disappointment you have ever had, every happiness you have been Blessed with....has been thought, felt and experienced by a myriad of other people throughout time.
Gommy would bet that there are a bunch of Mommy's out there that feel guilty for thinking they would like some time to themselves. Time away from their family. How dare they!!!! But you know a little secret? Goms has been there and done that.....and so have bazillions of other women throughout history (if they are honest). Why??? Because life is very stressful at times and many times, when you are trying to take it one day at a time.....the whole week falls on top of you! There are no manuals to doing it all right, getting it all done, showing you how you are supposed to be a perfect little wife, mom, counselor, taxi-driver, daughter, friend, housemaid, femme fatale' , employee....YIKES....no wonder you want to get away and just focus on YOU!!! So relax moms of the world......you are quite normal. Gommy would actually think you were abnormal if you didn't need a little R&R sometimes. Remember...."Ain't nobody happy if Mama ain't happy!" No truer words were ever spoken. If you don't take care of yourselves....how can you take care of everyone else??? The same goes for Dads....they need their time to enjoy their sports, hobbies, and interests too.
Then on the idea of being downsized (another word for a nasty way to treat people). This seems to be happening quite often lately. It boils down to 'attempting' to get the same thing for a cheaper price. But, the reality is you get what you pay for and as my Grandma used to say, "You just can't get a silk purse out of a sows ear." Meaning, the newbie is just that...full of schooling but lacking in the years and years of experience you have with the person who has worked their way up the ladder and given their loyalty to their position. Eastern cultures have the right idea......they revere and cherish their elderly.....they know that with age comes wisdom. There are no shortcuts. You have to live it to know what the heck you are doing and what not to do to
But now onto the inspired part. Inspiration comes from two words; In and Spirit. If you are in spirit, you will have passion. You will know instinctively what makes sense and what you want to do and how to get there. If you live your life and feel your intentions with passion....you will succeed. The great speaker Wayne Dyer says that, "to attempt to manifest what you want without passion is like dressing up a corpse." Or as my same, smart Grandma used to say, "You're all dressed up with no place to go!" You may be going through the motions but you aren't getting anywhere.
Think of a time in your life when you were inspired. It could have been the first time you fell in love. Every waking moment was spent thinking about the object of your affections. Just the thought of them made you all tingly inside. THAT is inspiration boys and girls. Or maybe you wanted to BE a certain something, i.e. a singer, an artist, an XYZ.....you thought about it, planned for it, envisioned yourself as it......again....you felt inspired boys and girls.
So, how about trying to find something to feel inspired about again. It's never too late.....One of Gommys' favorite sayings is..."It's never too late to live happily ever after." You can start today....don't waste a single day of this wonderful life you have been given. Go to the beach or to the mountains, look at a baby or heck, just look in the mirror....you are pretty inspirational you know. There is no one else just exactly like you. It's worth finding again. Gommy is pulling for you......Hugs & Mush
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Need a Hug?
Hello boys and girls...hope you are all having a delicious day. Gommy was watching a beautiful video on YouTube today called 'Hug The World". It had the most amazing music by Enigma and the song was 'Return to Innocence". It was most inspiring to watch all these people, animals, friends, strangers, family members...hugging. But the kind of hugging that is done with abandon and not caring if anyone else sees you hugging. You can feel that they don't even know anyone else in the world is around at the time. It was just about hugging.....amazing, right? And such an easy thing to do......and it doesn't cost a little red cent. But it got Goms to thinking that we all need and want a great big helluva' hug at times.
Hugs are exchanged at times of sadness and at times of happiness or at times of sheer exhilaration at accomplishing something or when we may have failed at something, or when someone returns home after being away for a time, or perhaps at times when words just aren't enough. Hugs are soooo 'heartfelt' and emotion-filled that it would be a perfect world if we could just feel that emotion with every breath we take. If we could just, on a daily basis, emit that emotion ourselves and pour out the love and compassion that it evokes, our life and so many others would be all the better. Then, we would be spewing love all over and sending well wishes to the Universe and everyone and everything in it. Geesh.....what a concept.
If you ever have the time or inclination to watch the video Gommy is speaking of......you will 'get it'. You will actually 'feel' the emotions of the huggers while you are watching it. You will remember a hug you gave or received at one time and it can bring all that emotion flooding back to you. And you will understand that giving and receiving that sort of well wishing, empathy and care, is all it would take for us all to get along in this crazy world in which we live.
Gommy would like everyone to feel that good. And all it would take is to go out and hug someone and feel how great it feels to connect. It seems as if society has become too insular. We are stuck to our computers, or we spend so much of our time in an office at work. Or we live far away from our families and don't have the familiar community of the old days where everyone knew everyone else. Just try it....couldn't hurt right? You might even like it!
So, Gommy's lesson for today is to try to watch the video and you will find that you will be wanting to find someone or something to hug.....even if it is just a tree...trees need hugs too (and not just for politically correct reasons, tee-hee). You can stir that something, somewhere inside of you that has been missing for a long time. You can start with your own family. Give em' a hug....and not one of those pale, arms-length and pasty hugs. A great big loooooong hug with strong feelings. Hug em' like you mean it....you will get more back than you give....I Pinky Finger Promise you..... And here's a great big, warm, strong, emotion-filled hugs from Goms.......Hugs & Mush, Gommy.....PS....bet you want to sing a chorus of Kum Ba Yah don't ya'????? Go ahead.....that will work too...."Oh Lord, someone is laughing Lord!....Kum Ba Yah....Lord, someone is crying Lord!!...." See....same emotion....GO FOR IT KIDS... Gommy is pulling for ya'
Hugs are exchanged at times of sadness and at times of happiness or at times of sheer exhilaration at accomplishing something or when we may have failed at something, or when someone returns home after being away for a time, or perhaps at times when words just aren't enough. Hugs are soooo 'heartfelt' and emotion-filled that it would be a perfect world if we could just feel that emotion with every breath we take. If we could just, on a daily basis, emit that emotion ourselves and pour out the love and compassion that it evokes, our life and so many others would be all the better. Then, we would be spewing love all over and sending well wishes to the Universe and everyone and everything in it. Geesh.....what a concept.
If you ever have the time or inclination to watch the video Gommy is speaking of......you will 'get it'. You will actually 'feel' the emotions of the huggers while you are watching it. You will remember a hug you gave or received at one time and it can bring all that emotion flooding back to you. And you will understand that giving and receiving that sort of well wishing, empathy and care, is all it would take for us all to get along in this crazy world in which we live.
Gommy would like everyone to feel that good. And all it would take is to go out and hug someone and feel how great it feels to connect. It seems as if society has become too insular. We are stuck to our computers, or we spend so much of our time in an office at work. Or we live far away from our families and don't have the familiar community of the old days where everyone knew everyone else. Just try it....couldn't hurt right? You might even like it!
So, Gommy's lesson for today is to try to watch the video and you will find that you will be wanting to find someone or something to hug.....even if it is just a tree...trees need hugs too (and not just for politically correct reasons, tee-hee). You can stir that something, somewhere inside of you that has been missing for a long time. You can start with your own family. Give em' a hug....and not one of those pale, arms-length and pasty hugs. A great big loooooong hug with strong feelings. Hug em' like you mean it....you will get more back than you give....I Pinky Finger Promise you..... And here's a great big, warm, strong, emotion-filled hugs from Goms.......Hugs & Mush, Gommy.....PS....bet you want to sing a chorus of Kum Ba Yah don't ya'????? Go ahead.....that will work too...."Oh Lord, someone is laughing Lord!....Kum Ba Yah....Lord, someone is crying Lord!!...." See....same emotion....GO FOR IT KIDS... Gommy is pulling for ya'
Monday, July 26, 2010
Ommmmmmmm
Gommy is trying to figure out how and why she was so lucky to find the peace I have found in my life and how maybe I can help others find it in their lives. Here goes......
After listening to a lecture on how our very life begins, it was very thought provoking to think of how we actually do begin our life while we are still in utero. We start with the formation of a mid-line embryologic plate (I guess it is called our nervous system) somewhere between the 14th and 17th day of conception. Now, Wikipedia calls this primitive streak the beginning of the Central Nervous System.....so don't go thinking Gommy is going all 'woo-woo' on your guys and don't go falling asleep as if you were in Science class. Everyone awake? Good. Now this line is eventually connected to everything else in the body and has something to do with every form and function of the body, brain, nervous system....well, just everything. Gommy likes to think of this as our soul in body form. It is said that this very same 'nervous system' even 'lives' on for about three days after our body dies! Sounds like a soul to me.....
Are you asking how all this science stuff has anything to do with Gommy finding peace in my life? Thought so.....well here is the connection.....If all the people who seem to have found 'inner peace' do so through meditation, practicing deep breathing and finding awareness, say they do it by 'centering' themselves....then this must be the 'center' they are talking about and where most of us don't think about very often. For Gommy, I can actually close my eyes and 'find that center' now. It took a while and a lot of research about how other people said they 'found' theirs, but Goms can tell you it is possible to find yours too.
We have always heard people say they need to find their center again.....or align themselves with the right path. Somehow, this finding your center and focusing on it is a short cut. Now to visualize this 'center', you can close your eyes and imagine there is a hole in the top of your skull. Now visualize putting a plumb-line right down in that hole all the way to your tailbone. This is the very hub of your vibrational self. As you close your eyes and 'see' this line.....breathe....not just normal breathing....slowly breathe in through your nose until your chest rises fully....then let the air back out through your mouth....but slowly....very slowly. You can almost feel the stress and anxiety leaving your body when you do this. Oh.....almost forgot...when you are breathing...turn off the hamster-wheel or monkey-talk in your head......we don't need them along for this excursion. OK...now visualize a nice mountain top in the wilderness or if that doesn't work for you....try picturing yourself swaying gently in a hammock on a nice breezy day at the beach. You can hear the birds and the ocean lapping up to shore.....or if you took the mountain route....you can hear the river rippling over the rocks and the stillness all around you. Oh....the stillness...almost forgot that part too. The stillness is all about God/Source/The Universe. What is that part in the Bible...."Be still and know that I am God." Or the other one, "Stillness is the language God speaks and all else is a bad translation." Well....that is the stillness part. It is actually letting go and letting God. It is the vibration inside of us that is our Life.
It is like when we go on a vacation to a secluded resort, or the mountains or the beautiful beaches somewhere far away. It is that calmness we feel when we get away from the rushed life we make for ourselves and think, "Ahhhhhhhhhhh, this is so nice and peaceful." And we don't want to come back to our life in urban society, or the fast paced life that we call our 'reality'.
Those of you who are still feeling skeptical should ask yourselves it you have ever had to go to a chiropractor or have been to an acupuncturist. What these people do is realign our body when it is out of whack.....(Gommy's technical term for not in alignment). Maybe you haven't actually had one of these treatments before but maybe you have given yourself a mini-realignment at one time or another. How many of you have ever applied pressure to the back of your neck when you had a bad headache? You just 'sensed' that it would redirect the pain somehow....and by golly.....it does. Or maybe you've heard of the principle of applying pressure to the web part of your hand where you thumb and your forefinger is connected. Applying pressure there will also alleviate the pain in your head. Guess what???? YOU are an acupressurist and you didn't even know it!
So, now you may be feeling a little bit better about seeing that there is a connection between being 'centered' and the center in us all. Finding the peace within you is actually WITHIN you. Find that place and you can 'go there' whenever you are feeling anxious or nervous or the hamster-wheel is going a mile a minute in your head and you are multi-tasking and you feel like you are on overload.....and......gasp......you just want to jump out of your skin. Instead.....go inside your skin. Breathe.....calm your thoughts...or better yet....don't think at all....except for the thoughts of the mountains or ocean or whatever it is that makes you feel serene.
Well, that's about it for today's lesson from Gommy. It really does work and it really is worth trying to get there. You can have your own mini-vacation anytime you want and it's better than those expensive vacations we look forward to once a year at best. Happy breathing boys and girls. Gommy is pulling for you...((*.*)) Hugs and Mush everyone!
After listening to a lecture on how our very life begins, it was very thought provoking to think of how we actually do begin our life while we are still in utero. We start with the formation of a mid-line embryologic plate (I guess it is called our nervous system) somewhere between the 14th and 17th day of conception. Now, Wikipedia calls this primitive streak the beginning of the Central Nervous System.....so don't go thinking Gommy is going all 'woo-woo' on your guys and don't go falling asleep as if you were in Science class. Everyone awake? Good. Now this line is eventually connected to everything else in the body and has something to do with every form and function of the body, brain, nervous system....well, just everything. Gommy likes to think of this as our soul in body form. It is said that this very same 'nervous system' even 'lives' on for about three days after our body dies! Sounds like a soul to me.....
Are you asking how all this science stuff has anything to do with Gommy finding peace in my life? Thought so.....well here is the connection.....If all the people who seem to have found 'inner peace' do so through meditation, practicing deep breathing and finding awareness, say they do it by 'centering' themselves....then this must be the 'center' they are talking about and where most of us don't think about very often. For Gommy, I can actually close my eyes and 'find that center' now. It took a while and a lot of research about how other people said they 'found' theirs, but Goms can tell you it is possible to find yours too.
We have always heard people say they need to find their center again.....or align themselves with the right path. Somehow, this finding your center and focusing on it is a short cut. Now to visualize this 'center', you can close your eyes and imagine there is a hole in the top of your skull. Now visualize putting a plumb-line right down in that hole all the way to your tailbone. This is the very hub of your vibrational self. As you close your eyes and 'see' this line.....breathe....not just normal breathing....slowly breathe in through your nose until your chest rises fully....then let the air back out through your mouth....but slowly....very slowly. You can almost feel the stress and anxiety leaving your body when you do this. Oh.....almost forgot...when you are breathing...turn off the hamster-wheel or monkey-talk in your head......we don't need them along for this excursion. OK...now visualize a nice mountain top in the wilderness or if that doesn't work for you....try picturing yourself swaying gently in a hammock on a nice breezy day at the beach. You can hear the birds and the ocean lapping up to shore.....or if you took the mountain route....you can hear the river rippling over the rocks and the stillness all around you. Oh....the stillness...almost forgot that part too. The stillness is all about God/Source/The Universe. What is that part in the Bible...."Be still and know that I am God." Or the other one, "Stillness is the language God speaks and all else is a bad translation." Well....that is the stillness part. It is actually letting go and letting God. It is the vibration inside of us that is our Life.
It is like when we go on a vacation to a secluded resort, or the mountains or the beautiful beaches somewhere far away. It is that calmness we feel when we get away from the rushed life we make for ourselves and think, "Ahhhhhhhhhhh, this is so nice and peaceful." And we don't want to come back to our life in urban society, or the fast paced life that we call our 'reality'.
Those of you who are still feeling skeptical should ask yourselves it you have ever had to go to a chiropractor or have been to an acupuncturist. What these people do is realign our body when it is out of whack.....(Gommy's technical term for not in alignment). Maybe you haven't actually had one of these treatments before but maybe you have given yourself a mini-realignment at one time or another. How many of you have ever applied pressure to the back of your neck when you had a bad headache? You just 'sensed' that it would redirect the pain somehow....and by golly.....it does. Or maybe you've heard of the principle of applying pressure to the web part of your hand where you thumb and your forefinger is connected. Applying pressure there will also alleviate the pain in your head. Guess what???? YOU are an acupressurist and you didn't even know it!
So, now you may be feeling a little bit better about seeing that there is a connection between being 'centered' and the center in us all. Finding the peace within you is actually WITHIN you. Find that place and you can 'go there' whenever you are feeling anxious or nervous or the hamster-wheel is going a mile a minute in your head and you are multi-tasking and you feel like you are on overload.....and......gasp......you just want to jump out of your skin. Instead.....go inside your skin. Breathe.....calm your thoughts...or better yet....don't think at all....except for the thoughts of the mountains or ocean or whatever it is that makes you feel serene.
Well, that's about it for today's lesson from Gommy. It really does work and it really is worth trying to get there. You can have your own mini-vacation anytime you want and it's better than those expensive vacations we look forward to once a year at best. Happy breathing boys and girls. Gommy is pulling for you...((*.*)) Hugs and Mush everyone!
Friday, July 23, 2010
Hold em' or Fold em'?
Hello again boys and girls. It's raining in Gommy's part of the world today. Don't you just love how the rain seems to wash everything clean and makes it all smell so fresh again? Or how about taking a nice long nap while it is pouring outside and you are all snuggly in your comfy warm bed, and maybe the windows are open so you can hear the rain falling down and maybe your curtains are gently moving with the breeze coming in. Ahhhhh... it doesn't get much better than that...now does it? Except, maybe you had a tin roof on your home hmmmmmmmmm.....Gommy has slept in a house with a tin roof before and those yummy naps are just about the best naps you could ever have.
But today, Gommy wants to talk about knowing when it is right to hold em' or to fold em'. Meaning, when is it the right time to look for another way of making things work out for whatever is on your 'life plate' at this time. A motivational speaker named Bob Proctor told a story about a fly that was trying to fly 'through' a plate glass window one day. It kept trying and trying and finally, it just fell dead onto the window sill. It just wouldn't give up the notion that it could 'do it' if it tried hard enough and long enough. The funny thing though, is that there was an open door only about ten feet away. If the silly fly had just looked around and noticed that there was an easier route it could have taken...it might still be alive to try another way.
This by no means is meant to imply that we should always look for the easier way around something. It is just meant to show that if we have really given it our 'all' and it seems as if we aren't making much headway on a particular issue at hand....maybe there is another route we can take after all. Gommy read a wonderful quote once that said, "Courage doesn't always roar, sometimes it's a small voice saying I will try again tomorrow." Now Gommys wants to add that maybe it could mean we could try something different and not as difficult to solve the 'whatever' crisis is in your world at that moment.
Sometimes we may feel as if we are constantly butting our 'heads' up against the 'plate-glass window' of life i.e. issues or arguments or work problems or disagreements with loved ones. But it just might be possible to look for ways to get around the angst these problems are posing for us. Say we don't get along with a certain co-worker....we can try as much as possible to avoid interaction with that person. If it is an argument that you just can't seem to come to agreement about with a family member or friend.....agree to disagree. We don't always have to think the same way another person does. Gommy has always said that, "If you never disagree.....only one person is doing the thinking." Compromise is a way to settle some things. But you can't be the one to be expected to do the compromising all the time either. Take turns.....Gommys always says ;-]
But back to the fly and the glass. We sometimes try to make mountains out of molehills (hmmmmm, Gommy seems to keep using innocent creatures in her metaphors today)......but the fact remains that if we continue to blindly push and push and push at an issue and/or argument, etc., we don't allow ourselves the opportunity to find another way to find our success. In essence, we are shooting ourselves in our own foot. There might be a much easier way around....without 'killing' yourself like the poor fly did!
So, have a great day folks. Take another look if something has you stumped at the moment and just rethink it. And if it happens to be raining in your corner of the world.....have a great nap! Everything always looks better after you sleep on it! Hugs and Mush, Gommy
But today, Gommy wants to talk about knowing when it is right to hold em' or to fold em'. Meaning, when is it the right time to look for another way of making things work out for whatever is on your 'life plate' at this time. A motivational speaker named Bob Proctor told a story about a fly that was trying to fly 'through' a plate glass window one day. It kept trying and trying and finally, it just fell dead onto the window sill. It just wouldn't give up the notion that it could 'do it' if it tried hard enough and long enough. The funny thing though, is that there was an open door only about ten feet away. If the silly fly had just looked around and noticed that there was an easier route it could have taken...it might still be alive to try another way.
This by no means is meant to imply that we should always look for the easier way around something. It is just meant to show that if we have really given it our 'all' and it seems as if we aren't making much headway on a particular issue at hand....maybe there is another route we can take after all. Gommy read a wonderful quote once that said, "Courage doesn't always roar, sometimes it's a small voice saying I will try again tomorrow." Now Gommys wants to add that maybe it could mean we could try something different and not as difficult to solve the 'whatever' crisis is in your world at that moment.
Sometimes we may feel as if we are constantly butting our 'heads' up against the 'plate-glass window' of life i.e. issues or arguments or work problems or disagreements with loved ones. But it just might be possible to look for ways to get around the angst these problems are posing for us. Say we don't get along with a certain co-worker....we can try as much as possible to avoid interaction with that person. If it is an argument that you just can't seem to come to agreement about with a family member or friend.....agree to disagree. We don't always have to think the same way another person does. Gommy has always said that, "If you never disagree.....only one person is doing the thinking." Compromise is a way to settle some things. But you can't be the one to be expected to do the compromising all the time either. Take turns.....Gommys always says ;-]
But back to the fly and the glass. We sometimes try to make mountains out of molehills (hmmmmm, Gommy seems to keep using innocent creatures in her metaphors today)......but the fact remains that if we continue to blindly push and push and push at an issue and/or argument, etc., we don't allow ourselves the opportunity to find another way to find our success. In essence, we are shooting ourselves in our own foot. There might be a much easier way around....without 'killing' yourself like the poor fly did!
So, have a great day folks. Take another look if something has you stumped at the moment and just rethink it. And if it happens to be raining in your corner of the world.....have a great nap! Everything always looks better after you sleep on it! Hugs and Mush, Gommy
Monday, July 19, 2010
It Is Better to Give Than to Receive....No....Really...It is!
Hi boys and girls. Hope everyone is doing well. For today, Gommy wants to talk about the premise that giving is an essential part of the human experience. Gommy was (still am) an only child and only children can sometimes grow up without ever knowing how it is to share anything. This can cause the 'only' some problems when it becomes evident that someone wants a bit of what 'we' have.
One of the lessons Gommy believes she still has to learn is the lesson of 'freely' giving. That is; giving without concern that it will mean having less. Gommy knows this is a lesson I still have to learn because we are all here to learn lessons and Gommy hasn't gotten this one down as thoroughly as need be. We are given 'little hints' along the way and the 'smarter' ones of us (the conscious/awakened ones), pick up on the hints quicker than the rest of us......YUP...Gommy still needs the proverbial 'brick to the head' to sometimes get the aha moment, or the light bulb to come on in the old thinking part of the brain, or the epiphany that Goms needs to awaken to these lessons. Slow learner I guess. But, eventually, Gommy can be heard (if only to herself) to have one of those, "Ohhhhhhhhhh, now I get it." moments and everything becomes 'crystal' clear all of a sudden. All of a sudden???....Are you kidding Goms???? The whole wall has to fall sometimes before the awakening moment happens. DUH Goms!
On the subject of sharing and giving, it has come to Gom's attention through studying about spirituality, the Bible, listening to self-help tapes and on an on ad nauseum.....that to receive anything (and that really means anything) you must give it. Doesn't make sense does it? Didn't for Gommy for a very LONG TIME either. Remember, anything that you truly want or feel you 'need'....you are withholding it. You must give it to receive it. Need love.....give it.....need money....give it....need to be understood.....understand others. See.....give and take. Reap and sow. It's the way it was set up.....so don't try to disagree (mess) with Mother Nature....you know how that can end up. YIKES!!!!
Here, let Gommy try to explain. There is something called 'Dynamic Exchange" which means in everything, there is the law (Divine/Universal Law) that states: for life to perpetuate itself, there must be an exchange. We have hot and cold climate changes......we have up and down, ebb and flow of tides, night and day, black and white and life and death, etc. You can also call it Reaping and Sowing or Karma or Yin and Yang, depending on what part of the world you are from. There are opposites at all levels of life. Everything at the most basic level is engaged in giving and receiving. Energy is given, energy is received. Even with our human bodies we see this dynamic exchange taking place. One type of cell may require the assistance of another type of cell in our body, and in turn the helped cell will provide a different service back to the cell that just helped it out. This is a critical process, and without it, life would cease to exist.
One of the lessons Gommy believes she still has to learn is the lesson of 'freely' giving. That is; giving without concern that it will mean having less. Gommy knows this is a lesson I still have to learn because we are all here to learn lessons and Gommy hasn't gotten this one down as thoroughly as need be. We are given 'little hints' along the way and the 'smarter' ones of us (the conscious/awakened ones), pick up on the hints quicker than the rest of us......YUP...Gommy still needs the proverbial 'brick to the head' to sometimes get the aha moment, or the light bulb to come on in the old thinking part of the brain, or the epiphany that Goms needs to awaken to these lessons. Slow learner I guess. But, eventually, Gommy can be heard (if only to herself) to have one of those, "Ohhhhhhhhhh, now I get it." moments and everything becomes 'crystal' clear all of a sudden. All of a sudden???....Are you kidding Goms???? The whole wall has to fall sometimes before the awakening moment happens. DUH Goms!
On the subject of sharing and giving, it has come to Gom's attention through studying about spirituality, the Bible, listening to self-help tapes and on an on ad nauseum.....that to receive anything (and that really means anything) you must give it. Doesn't make sense does it? Didn't for Gommy for a very LONG TIME either. Remember, anything that you truly want or feel you 'need'....you are withholding it. You must give it to receive it. Need love.....give it.....need money....give it....need to be understood.....understand others. See.....give and take. Reap and sow. It's the way it was set up.....so don't try to disagree (mess) with Mother Nature....you know how that can end up. YIKES!!!!
Here, let Gommy try to explain. There is something called 'Dynamic Exchange" which means in everything, there is the law (Divine/Universal Law) that states: for life to perpetuate itself, there must be an exchange. We have hot and cold climate changes......we have up and down, ebb and flow of tides, night and day, black and white and life and death, etc. You can also call it Reaping and Sowing or Karma or Yin and Yang, depending on what part of the world you are from. There are opposites at all levels of life. Everything at the most basic level is engaged in giving and receiving. Energy is given, energy is received. Even with our human bodies we see this dynamic exchange taking place. One type of cell may require the assistance of another type of cell in our body, and in turn the helped cell will provide a different service back to the cell that just helped it out. This is a critical process, and without it, life would cease to exist.
Abundance begins with the proper mindset. When you give, what you are telling your subconscious mind is, "I am receiving abundance; so much that I can give something in return." By communicating this message over and over, you are making the exchange that Gommy was talking about earlier. You thoughts, actions, and the choices you make will be thought of in the new mindset of abundance. It is only a matter of time before your wishes and hopes are materialized. And this is with most anything you can imagine. If you focus on what your intentions are long enough and deeply enough, you will manifest what you long for.
Nature hates a vacuum. Any empty spot will be quickly filled up again. Look at a lawn....take out a patch of weeds and the grass will grow to meet it. Clear off your calendar for some R&R and pretty soon you are completely covered up with things to do again. And the Law of Abundance tells us that we will create our own reality by our desires for things, money, people i.e. a spouse and child. So, when you are generous with something and give 'whatever' away....somehow, more of it shows up in our lives. Have you ever thought about how you clean out your refrigerator and it is almost empty.....and pretty soon.....in a few months....it is jam crammed with food again and you need to clean it out again. Or how about your shoes. Those of us who are fortunate enough, probably have more shoes than we have days left.....But, give them away and pretty soon.....voila' the shoe Fairy has replaced your shoe inventory to overflowing once again. (With a little help from her friends, tee, hee) . So, it appears that whenever you empty out (or give) stuff away, you make space more stuff to replace it. And surprisingly, you end up with more stuff than you had before.
The Law of Karma states, in the simplest terms, that what goes around comes around. You will remember how the New Testament expresses the thought: "whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap." That is just what karma means -- it is a Sanskrit term used in Hindu and Buddhist philosophy to signify 'action' followed by reaction the actions you take in each moment add up to your results in the future. If you’re constantly giving on a daily basis, you can be sure the life you’re creating for yourself in the future is a great one. So just because the premise of Karma comes from another area of the world, it is not reason to fear the concept. It is the same as the Bible using Reap and Sow.
The same holds true of gratitude. We must always be grateful for those Blessings we receive. And here is another 'secret' Gommy is going to share with you. It isn't only that you do give or what you give.....it is in the way you feel when you give. If you give with reluctance or bitterness.....guess what?.....not so good.....You must give with the right intentions....and not expect anything in return. You must be happy to give and enjoy giving whatever it is. And it doesn't have to be anything material. It can be as simple as a nod, a song, a compliment or a smile. Just give it with an open heart. The more you give.....the more you receive.
So, Gommy has to work on this premise more to get it down so it comes more freely without the worry that it will deplete my store of 'whatever' because it won't. Now, Grandpa has it down pat already. In fact, Goms has to hold the reins sometimes so he doesn't give everything away. But Grandpa is supposed to be teaching Goms the lesson that it is alright to give....and to be gracious while doing so. Thank you Grandpa. Everyone that comes into our lives is meant to teach us lessons. We keep teaching each other stuff all the time. And you know what? It gets easier as we go along. In fact, we are at the place now where we are actually looking for the lessons. It is so much easier than getting hit over the head all the time.
So, boys and girls.....give it a try. You've heard the old saying, "Give til' it hurts.".......Well practice giving and giving and giving.....until it doesn't hurt any longer. You can do it.... Gommy is pulling for you (and for Gommy too...tee, hee) Hugs and Mush.....Gommy
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