Are You a Control Freak?

Hi boys and girls....Gommy wonders how many of us are control freaks? We all know some don't we? We may even BE one. You know them....they are the back seat drivers, the mothers who know how to raise their child and (everyone elses for that matter!), the husband or wife who has to orchestrate every detail of every minute of the entire family's life, the co-worker who takes on the lion's share of responsibility because no one else could ever get it right. Or how about the family member who always decides where the family reunion will be....how much it will cost...what part of the year it will be held....GAG!!!!!

Have you ever wondered why they (or you) feel you have to control every little sickening detail of every little thing that goes on? It is always 'fear driven.' The fear that unless they (or you) are in charge...it will somehow blow up and not go right (at least according to the control freak, that is). The control freak doesn't really do all of this 'stuff' to be cruel, bossy or mean. They really feel they are protecting the world from making monumental mistakes. Mistakes that only they...in their infinite wisdom, can help to avoid. Gommy is not advocating making mistakes...but to achieve successes, we have to take a chance sometimes.

The insipid thing about control freaks is that they use cunning, fear, guilt, intimidation and manipulation to get to have their way. That isn't nice people....so if you are doing that...STOP IT RIGHT THIS MINUTE! It will only blow up in your face one day.....when the person or people you are holding your superiority over has had enough and bolts! It's just a fact of life. When someone or something is held down or against their will for long enough.....they explode and run as fast as they can AWAY from the thing or person who is smothering them. The very thing the control freak is afraid of.... is the very same thing they are causing to happen.

Ever wonder if YOU may be a control freak? Want to step on on a limb and take a little test? Answer some of these questions to get a peek....1) Are you afraid to think someone elses' opinion may be better than yours? 2) Do you often give unsolicited advice? 3) Do you obsess and check and recheck yours and other people's work 4) Do you often feel that unless you are in charge of something, it won't end up well? And for a question that is the most revealing.....5) Is "Know it All" your other name? If you answered 'Yes' to most of these questions....Gommy has a scoop for ya'.....YOU ARE A CONTROL FREAK!

The hardest thing for a control freak to do is to be flexible. Being flexible means not having things go the way YOU want or expect them to go. It means that the 'screaching monkey-talk' in your head is going way out of 'control' and you can't hear the voice of reason any longer. Stop being so anxiety ridden that you have to be a 'helicopter' parent, spouse, co-worker, boss or friend and keep hovering over everything to make sure it goes the right way (actually YOUR way....which is the better way right?) Not necessarily boys and girls. Other people can have good ideas too.

Well if you are projecting these unpleasant characteristics with those around you....Gommy has another question for your. HOW IS THAT WORKING OUT FOR YOU PEEPS???? Gommy's guess is....not very well. Just when you think you have all of Jack....back in the box.....YIKES.....he comes popping right back out and you try to stuff him back in...again and again. But one of these times....Jack is going to escape. So watch out....You will finally be in control....but you will only be controlling yourself from then on because everyone else will have run away...because let's face it....no one enjoys being around a control freak for very long.

If you are the 'victim' ( Gommy hates to use that word because there are no victims....there are only those who allow things to happen to them).....then you may feel better knowing the control freak doesn't have it out for you. Many times, they actually have a very high regard for you or in the case of a spouse....they love you...maybe too much. In many cases, they are actually fearing the loss of you. This is a prime example of someone who is jealous. These people are really just insecure in themselves.

The best way to 'deal' with a control freak is to find a time when they are feeling 'safe'. Let them know, in the workplace for example, that you like your job.....you aren't out to get their job and you take your job seriously and want to do your best too. In the case of a spouse, let them know that you love them and do not want to find anyone else....but that you are not comfortable with them making all the decisions for the family.

If you are the control freak yourself, you have to tell yourself that by letting someone else make some decisions....it doesn't lesson who you are or diminish your value. Gommy promises you that when you see that the whole world didn't fall apart while you weren't running it.....you will be able to let go and enjoy a little at a time. Try it....it is much easier being the guest than the host....Gommy has been both and has decided to be the guest from now on and give up the hostess position. LOL ;-]

So "AT EASE' control freaks of the world. Let it be......as the great Beatles song goes. Sit back....enjoy.....let go of the reins for a bit. Everything will be okay.....Gommy is pulling for you! Hugs and Mush

Hey YOU!

Hi everyone. Is everybody calm today? Gommy asks because there is a lot of coverage on the news the last few days about a flight attendant who 'flipped out' and screamed back at a person traveling on his flight who hit him in the head with their suitcase while getting it down from the overhead compartment. There doesn't seem to be any backlash coming out of it for him either. Instead, there seems to be more of a......"You go guy! or You tell em'...or I wish I could tell some of the customers I have to deal with to bug off!" He is practically a hero among people who have to put up with other people in their jobs.

Should the steward have retaliated and screamed back at the passenger? No, not at all. But do we sometimes have our buttons pushed so much that we just react instead of respond? Most certainly. It would appear that the steward should have seen the problem coming, if he was feeling stressed lately as he said. We all know when we are feeling stressed and put upon. It would have been better had he taken a look and asked himself if he might want to work in a different capacity with the airline for a change. And if that still included working with the public. Gommy is pretty sure he will be having that decision made for him now. But he better not let people annoying him get to him in prison.....if that is where he ends up after all this. Those guys don't play well with others either. YIKES! If you would just think of the consequences of your actions....you may just simmer down a bit.

This is what 'civilization' (or the lack of it) has come to in the last while. The rudeness of people is rampant. Gommy has worked with the public for several years and it never ceases to amaze how people think that the service industry is made up of door mats. Gommy thought my name was "Hey' for a long time...(it's not....it's Gommy). And if the customers aren't rude....then they think you are invisible....that is until they need you for something and then it's Hey YOU!!!.

One of Gommy's positions was at an ice-cream/candy shoppe and part of the job was greeting people as they came into the store. You would not believe how many people just walk on by and never even nod their heads at you when you speak to them. It became almost (I emphasize the word....ALMOST) funny at times. Gommy would sometimes raise my voice level while greeting them. Still........several of the customers would just walked by and never acknowledged me....that is if Gommy weren't the persistent one that I am. It became a challenge to make the person look my way and acknowledge being greeted and to at least smile.

In the case of the passenger in the airplane that hit the poor guy in the head and cussed at HIM....Gommy never could understand why everyone is so eager to jump up out of their seats and grab their belongings so they can get off the plane.....Here is a flash for them..........everyone gets off in order, by their aisle assignments....single file and from the front to the back. DUH! You don't have to jump up (and usually hit your own head) and think you are getting out any faster than anyone else. What is the big deal about being first all the time? It isn't like it's going to make a whole heck of a lot of difference if you get off the plane 2 minutes later. Calm down!

Maybe the passenger was having a bad day.....maybe they had a connecting flight and were afraid they were going to miss it. But, whatever the reason, it is never okay to be abusive to someone because of your dilemma. As for the steward....he probably had just about enough of being abused. And everyone does have their saturation point. We never know what is going on in someones life and it appears that a whole lotta' people are kinda testy these days. So it doesn't take much to push them over the edge...........so be careful who you are rude to. You may just find yourself on TV, being interview by a reporter as to why you were such an ass.

Maybe that is it.....maybe the passenger thought their anonymity enabled them to be nasty. Perhaps we feel that when we don't know anyone and no one knows us.... we can act nasty or ugly (as they say in the South)....and we get a free pass or we can get away with it. But, we should always try to act like we would like to be treated. It never pays to take out whatever is bugging us on someone else. Take deep breaths or something....but geesh..... don't spew out your nastiness on the world! It's 'customer service' not 'customer abuse the server'!

So, Gommys lessons for today is.....be nice boys and girls. You aren't the only ones having a bad day. How would you like someone to hit you in the head with their suitcase and tell you to "F*** Off!"? You wouldn't.....Gommys knows you wouldn't. So if you go acting a fool....... ..one of these days you are going to run into someone else who has just about had it with putting up with fools. Be careful how you treat people....Gommy is watching you! Hugs & Mush....((*~*))

Good-Bye For Now

Have you ever seen a movie or read a book or witnessed something that touched you so much that it made you ask yourself questions that you thought you had put to rest a long time ago? Gommy saw a movie this week that was all about letting go....and saying good-bye when you weren't ready (as if we are ever ready). And what might happen if you give up and miss what might lie ahead for you.

There are many chapters to our lives. We start out as babies, and have every one of our needs taken care of for us. Then we go through our early developmental years and we begin to form our own likes and dislikes and this begins the process of breaking away and starting to choose things for ourselves. The teens years are filled with drama and strife (both for the parent and the child). A tug-of-war between generations and a need for the teen to see just how good or bad the decisions they are making really are.

College brings another chapter of discovery. We are no longer in the cocoon, where our parents are supplying us with their belief systems. But what we don't realize, is that we are just exchanging our parent's values and beliefs for our professors' slant on life. This period is probably the stage most people remain stuck in, when it comes to their politics and religion. But, it is the time we should really be investigating and discovering what is the right fit for us because this developed belief system is how we will make the important choices we make for rest of our life. Then we become parents ourselves and we hand down our formed belief system to our offspring. It is the circle of life.

But back to the movie.....It showed how we must let go at times to enable us to move forward. There is a quote that Gommy likes that goes..."Life is like a monkey-bar set at the playground. You have to let go of one rung if you are ever to reach for the next one...and ultimately get to the end." That is such a true analogy. We have to let go of things all the time....if we are to grow and learn and hopefully teach.

Some people hold on to their beliefs, even if they have been proven to be wrong. Even if it doesn't serve them as being useful any longer. Even if sticking to the doom of their belief, proves they will be stuck in the muck and mire of unhappiness. That is just a sad way to exist. If you don't allow yourself the chance to find a better way to think, act or believe....you just wilt away and that is a wasted life.

When Gommy's husband died several years ago.....there was really no option of giving up. There were three beautiful children to be taken care of and who needed their mother. When my two beautiful children died....there was no option of giving up because I had a very wonderful and precious daughter who still needed her mother. I thank God every day for giving me something to live for, when it seemed like giving up would have been the easy way to go. I have often said that I know God doesn't give you more than you can handle....but I wish He wouldn't trust me so much.

If I had given up at those horrible times in my life....I would never have been able to enjoy all the Blessings and joy I have been given since those awful times. I have, proudly, seen my daughter graduate from college and graduate school and go on to marry and start her own family. I have wonderful, amazing grandchildren who have provided some of the warmest and sweetest times, and fond memories to stuff in my 'Gommy memory box'. I have an amazing husband to share my remaining years with and enjoy our time together. All of these things I would have missed if I had just given up.

Gommy knows my loved ones are still with me. We will be together again.....some time, some where. As Wayne Dyers says.....one day, we will move from "No-Where to Now-Here". So boys and girls, cherish every day of this gift of life you are given. Know that you are not alone in your times of sadness. Some of us just get our losses all bunched together....and others have theirs spread out. But, the reality is....we all have to face losses and bad times in our lives. So, think of your loved ones and remember all the special times and precious moments you shared and just say....I'll be seeing you.....someday. That is the scariest part for the ones left behind. They feel they will forget their loved ones if they move on. But, they are never forgotten.....in fact, they are with us any time we want them to be. It isn't good-bye forever....it's just Good-Bye for now. Hugs & Mush, Gommy

Mirror, Mirror....on the Wall?

Hey everyone out there in ether-land....Gommy was thinking.....Have you ever wondered how you would feel if suddenly your life was turned upside down? If someone you love was taken from you......or you were sliding down the economic ladder like you were covered in baby oil and you couldn't grab hold to save yourself from the fall.....or your doctor just told you that you had a serious illness? And what if you couldn't keep any of it from happening, even though you could see it unfolding......as if you were stuck on a railroad track with a huge train approaching?

Those thoughts would probably make for a very scary nightmare. But many people face those horrific situations every day. Every day that the rest of us are all going along with our own lives and some of us are griping or complaining over some trivial incident in our life. Some parents are camped out at hospitals, watching in agony while their child is sick, while other parents are complaining about how their own child is disappointing them in some way or another. Somewhere in the world, some husband or wife is arguing about some silly thing (that they will not even remember if you were to ask them next week what they were mad about), while another husband or wife is burying their loved one and wishing they could have even one more day with them.

Gommy isn't saying all this stuff to be morose or to make anyone feel guilty. It's just about realizing that there are so many more things to be happy about if we just look for them. Sure, everyone gets aggravated from time to time, but if you were to ask yourself if it were really worth all the negative energy you are putting into the issue at hand.....Goms bets you wouldn't think it was all that bad after all.

We have to look in the 'mirror' from time to time and ask if maybe we aren't projecting our own crankiness on someone or something during one of these times. We all get tired and we all have times when we have put too much on our 'plates' and we feel overwhelmed...but if we could try to remember that 'this too shall pass'.....we may be able to re-frame our attitudes and dispositions. Maybe the next time your spouse or significant other does something that annoys you.....ask yourself how you would feel if he/she weren't around any longer. Ask yourself if your child is so annoying that you wish you never had them. Or if you are a little tired from over-doing it, think of how you would feel if your were told you had a very serious illness and the next part of your life was going to involve going to doctors offices and having treatments for a very long time.

It's time to be thankful for every day that you don't have to face any of these awful circumstances. We will all have to go through tough times before we leave this life...but while things are going pretty well........be grateful and stop nit-picking about every little nuisance in life. Take a nap....(I know....you don't have time to take a nap)...but maybe you need to take some of that stuff off of your 'plate' and reduce the stresses you have put on yourself. Gommy bets there might even be someone in your circle of life that would love for you to take a nap and feel better....tee, hee. Or stop blaming your small child for being cranky.... rather ask yourself why they are so cranky. Did you let them stay up too long? Did you drag them to the store when it was THEIR nap time? Come on now.....we know how we get cranky when we're tired...don't you think it could be why they may be cranky sometimes? STOP....look in the mirror....could you be part of the blame for what is happening at times when you are so bummed?

If you are honest with yourself....you will admit that you do bring on some of the 'stuff' that you don't like or want in your life. Want to be happier? BE happier.....Don't think it's that easy? It really IS a choice,(unless you have medical reason for your depression). But the rest of us really can choose to be happy, or at least not dwell all the time on the things you can't change. Unless you can change (really and truly change) what is making you upset or cranky....what is the use of worrying and fretting about it? And if you aren't willing to help a little, by changing the way you react to situations....guess what kiddos? It ain't ever going to change. And when you do try to let go of the stuff you can't change.....it is the most marvelous and freeing sensation you will ever allow yourself to enjoy!

So, brighten up, cheer up and straighten up boys and girls. Life is short....shorter than you know. We are only here for the 'blink of an eye'.....use the time wisely. Quit being a grump-bucket. Stop looking for things to complain about. Because if you look for things to be wrong....you'll always be able to find something. Instead, look around for something to be grateful for. There are much more of those things, and they are so much more pleasant to experience. Trust Gommy..........I know..........I see them all the time. So Mirror, Mirror on the Wall.....who wants to be the happiest of all? You do........so SMILE....CHEER UP.....BE HAPPY!!!Gommy is pulling for you...Hugs & Mush to allllll ((^~^))

Have a Little Faith in Yourself !

Hi boys and girls. Hope everyone is doing well on this beautiful day. Today, Gommy wants to talk about having faith in knowing what we want in life. And the fear that develops when we think of changing anything in order to achieve whatever it is that we want.

Gommy read a quote by Usman Asif that said, "Fear is a darkroom, where negatives develop." That is so true when you think about it. We start out thinking about something we want, like maybe a new and exciting career and then we start that dreaded 'monkey-talk' and say to ourselves, 'Oh no, what if XYZ happens and it doesn't work out?....' or the thought that, 'I better stay right where I am because I don't know what I'll find somewhere else.' What this really translates into is a fear of change. We are creatures of habit and many of us don't like to go out of our comfort zones. We would rather loll around in our unfulfilled existence than to 'go for it'....

We choose to believe that we may go 'from the frying pan into the fire', rather than think we might actually be making a better life, career or place in the world for ourselves by the change. Why is that? Why is it so much easier to expect or accept the worst? We do have a 50/50 chance of it being the right decision, don't we???? We have to have faith sometimes, that things will turn out for the better every once in a while. Another quote that is applicable here is from Mary Morrissey. It states that, "You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith." Another good morsel to help you 'change' the way you think about things.

If we can learn to change without the dread part always creeping in, we can adapt more easily to a variety of situations. I have heard people say they felt sorry for a certain person because they had gone to several different schools while they were growing up. But, if you look at the people who did have different experiences in life (for whatever reason)....they seem to have an easier time speaking with new people, making friends with new people, and they are usually well-adjusted adults who can carry on conversations with people who don't necessarily have to be just like them. I'd say that is a good asset and a learning tool that they developed by meeting new people and facing new situations.

When we over-worry, we tend to become 'numb-brained' (another of Gommy's technical terms)....that is to say we get frozen in the thoughts we keep telling ourselves. You know....the old deer in the headlight syndrome. If we could learn to relax about possible mistakes we may make....we might become more at ease about change the next time an opportunity comes up. And when we find that it wasn't the end of the world and we are still upright and taking in nourishment.....we may just begin to trust ourselves with future thoughts about what we want. And then we won't fear the thought that we might have to change a few things in order to fulfill the idea. Change can be 'life-changing' but it doesn't have to be 'life-ending'.

And for all you boys and girls who are 'stuck' in whatever it is you are stuck in, and are afraid to change something because of what someone else may think of it.....STOP that. You'd be very surprised to know how very little people actually think about you or what you are doing. Oh, they may make a snide remark about your choice....but deep down they wish they had the guts to change something in their lives.

So, do you want to stay in your safe little 'prison' just so someone who is talking junk about you anyway, thinks more of you? Not this Gommy. We all get to live one life....OUR OWN. If you want to give yours away.....it is yours to give....but do you really want to give something away that is so precious to someone who doesn't really care all that much about you in the first place? Gommy thought not.....

So, think about something you would like to change in your life. Make it something small at first. Take little, tiny steps....and then bigger ones, until you change something you wished you could. It could be as small as not eating after eight o'clock at night. That may be a biggie to some noshers who like to watch TV and eat....or you can try going home from work a different way. Just little changes and then build up to bigger changes. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater though. We don't want a bunch of 'brain-numbing' 'deer in the headlight' peeps walking around wondering where the heck is my cheese.....That phrase is from a motivational book called "Who Moved my Cheese?"

The book, "Who Moved my Cheese?", is a parable for how change affects two little mice. The moral the book is trying to teach us is that: 1) "Change Happens= so keep the cheese moving 2) Anticipate Change= prepare and get ready for the cheese to move 3) Monitor the Change= Smell the cheese every once in a while to see if it is starting to smell 4) Adapt to Change Quickly= the quicker you let go of the old cheese, the sooner you can start enjoying the new cheese 5) Change! = Move with the Cheese 6) Enjoy the Change = Savor the taste of the new cheese, and finally 7) Be Ready for the next time to change quickly and enjoy it again and again = be willing to keep moving the cheese!

One of the little mice asks at one point, "What would you do if you weren't afraid?" Now that is a biggie. The simple answer to that question is that you leave fear behind. So my little mice friends....take a chance...move or change your cheese a little bit! You may just find that there is a plethora of cheeses out there that you have never tasted.....and there are some pretty good ones too. If you've only tasted Cheddar, Swiss or American...you are in for a treat when you get a taste of Gouda or Brie or............go on.......you can do it....Gommy is pulling for you! Hugs & Mush, Gommy

The Seasons of Our Lives

Hello boys and girls. Gommy is feeling very melancholy today. My sweet son-in-law, John, sent me a beautiful inspirational power-point piece that would bring a tear to most people's eyes.....and especially to a Gommy who has learned so much in the Autumn of my own life.

It was all about how we should not judge anyone or anything by just one glimpse or encounter. There is a saying that Gommy likes and it is: "If you knew me many years ago.....you don't know me now, because I'm not that person any longer."

The beautiful piece tells a story of a father who sends his four sons out to look at a tree and to come back and tell the father what they saw. The first son went out in Winter. The second son went out in Spring. The third son, in Summer and the fourth son went out in Fall. When they had all gone and returned, they each came back to explain what they had observed (judged). The son who had gone in Winter said he saw an ugly tree, all bent and twisted, with no leaves on it and not very pretty at all. The son who went out in the Spring, said he saw a tree that was dotted with green buds and blossoms that smelled of sweetness. The third son who went in Summer told of a tree teeming with buds, blooms and leaves that were full of promise. The last son went in Fall and told of a tree laden with fruit that was full of life and fulfillment.

The Father told the sons they were all right. But that their perception was only of one season for the tree. To fully understand the tree, they would have had to see all of the seasons of the tree and not judge it from one season alone.

We all have seasons of our lives. And the joy and sadness, and the successes and disappointments, and the loves and losses all make up who we are. It went on to say that if we give up in the Winter of our lives, we miss the promise of fulfillment in another season. We mustn't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of a season yet to come. We also must not judge anyone by only one season of their life. We are a combination of all of our seasons and everything that has happened to us in our lives.

The piece explains that our happy times keep us sweet.....our trials and tribulations make us strong...our failures make us humble and our sorrows keep us human....our faith keeps us growing....but it is God who keeps us going!

This is so true and when you think about it for a while.....you will see how true it really is. When you think back on your own life, you can remember times that you were happy, or sad, or scared....and you can see how each of those times had an impact on your attitude or disposition. We are a culmination of every experience we live. How we react to each instance....is how the rest of our life will turn out.

Live your life with optimism....don't be negative. Look for things to be grateful for because they are everywhere. Maybe you don't have everything you wish you had....but you do have much to be thankful for. And remember that there is always someone who has much less. It is also important to remember that we haven't earned the most prized of these possessions.....our lives. Our life was given to us through the Grace of God. Grace cannot be earned......it is given. So be 'graceful' in life. And as the piece goes on to say......Live Simply....Love generously....Care deeply.......Speak kindly.....and leave the rest to God....May God continue to Bless each and every one of you.....Hugs & Mush, Gommy PS...Thank you John

Inspired or Just Tired?

Hello out there everyone! Gommy recently received a question in the comment section of her Facebook page asking how Gommy knows just what this person was thinking all the time. It made Gommy think how we are all in the same boat, so to speak, but how odd it is that most people think that the experiences they are having, or the thoughts they are thinking, are solely theirs. Gommy gains inspiration from knowing it is better to watch rather than suggest (unless asked), think and listen before talking, and try to understand why someone feels as they do instead of judge them. When someone is un-inspired or just plain tired....it is usually because they have lost their passion in life.

Every new Mommy thinks she is the first woman who has ever bore a child. So,the Gommy's of the world just sit back (that is if she knows what's good for her and the Mommy's relationship) and marvels how she raised her own children and somehow she is now considered to know nothing of raising this new grandchild. Or a person who has been in the workplace for forty or fifty years, then all of a sudden is considered un-knowledgeable when the new upstart replaces them at their job. Or the presumption that anyone else cannot possibly know how it feels to lose a loved one, or have an unhappy marriage, or think other peoples' belief systems have been skewed and are totally wrong.

Guess what folks? Every thought you have ever thought, every situation you have ever found yourself in, every disappointment you have ever had, every happiness you have been Blessed with....has been thought, felt and experienced by a myriad of other people throughout time.

Gommy would bet that there are a bunch of Mommy's out there that feel guilty for thinking they would like some time to themselves. Time away from their family. How dare they!!!! But you know a little secret? Goms has been there and done that.....and so have bazillions of other women throughout history (if they are honest). Why??? Because life is very stressful at times and many times, when you are trying to take it one day at a time.....the whole week falls on top of you! There are no manuals to doing it all right, getting it all done, showing you how you are supposed to be a perfect little wife, mom, counselor, taxi-driver, daughter, friend, housemaid, femme fatale' , employee....YIKES....no wonder you want to get away and just focus on YOU!!! So relax moms of the world......you are quite normal. Gommy would actually think you were abnormal if you didn't need a little R&R sometimes. Remember...."Ain't nobody happy if Mama ain't happy!" No truer words were ever spoken. If you don't take care of yourselves....how can you take care of everyone else??? The same goes for Dads....they need their time to enjoy their sports, hobbies, and interests too.

Then on the idea of being downsized (another word for a nasty way to treat people). This seems to be happening quite often lately. It boils down to 'attempting' to get the same thing for a cheaper price. But, the reality is you get what you pay for and as my Grandma used to say, "You just can't get a silk purse out of a sows ear." Meaning, the newbie is just that...full of schooling but lacking in the years and years of experience you have with the person who has worked their way up the ladder and given their loyalty to their position. Eastern cultures have the right idea......they revere and cherish their elderly.....they know that with age comes wisdom. There are no shortcuts. You have to live it to know what the heck you are doing and what not to do to screw oops...mess things up.

But now onto the inspired part. Inspiration comes from two words; In and Spirit. If you are in spirit, you will have passion. You will know instinctively what makes sense and what you want to do and how to get there. If you live your life and feel your intentions with passion....you will succeed. The great speaker Wayne Dyer says that, "to attempt to manifest what you want without passion is like dressing up a corpse." Or as my same, smart Grandma used to say, "You're all dressed up with no place to go!" You may be going through the motions but you aren't getting anywhere.

Think of a time in your life when you were inspired. It could have been the first time you fell in love. Every waking moment was spent thinking about the object of your affections. Just the thought of them made you all tingly inside. THAT is inspiration boys and girls. Or maybe you wanted to BE a certain something, i.e. a singer, an artist, an XYZ.....you thought about it, planned for it, envisioned yourself as it......again....you felt inspired boys and girls.

So, how about trying to find something to feel inspired about again. It's never too late.....One of Gommys' favorite sayings is..."It's never too late to live happily ever after." You can start today....don't waste a single day of this wonderful life you have been given. Go to the beach or to the mountains, look at a baby or heck, just look in the mirror....you are pretty inspirational you know. There is no one else just exactly like you. It's worth finding again. Gommy is pulling for you......Hugs & Mush