Gommy was listening to someone recently talking about how this certain someone must have 'asked' for what happened in their life. Now Goms isn't a Rocket Scientist, but I would venture to say that this particular person didn't 'want' to be in the life position they were experiencing at this time in their life.
This person had lost their job and was forced to make some pretty drastic lifestyle changes. They had been humbled into asking for government assistance for the very food they were eating and for help in other areas of living day to day. They were also made to suffer all of the other embarrassments that come with being down on your luck. Did they ask for all that.......I think not.
The incident made Gommy start to think why someone would be so callous to the feelings of someone and their misfortunes. What Goms came up with is that when someone makes fun of someone losing their job, or having to receive assistance to get by with the daily necessities of life....it can only be that the insensitive person must never had to face adversity themselves. When they can think....."Oh, I or my husband/wife would never be downsized.....because we are just too wonderful...", or "That person must be stupid and made a lot of unwise choices with their finances." and so they think, "I am too smart to ever make an unwise decision about MY finances." Watch out people.....Karma is a Charma.....sometimes we are given tests and lessons in our lives so we may experience them as well. It is how you handle adversity that shows your true mettle.
What it really reveals about a person who would be that unkind is that they have never been struck with a downside in their life. The people who do have to suffer humiliation and the admission that they have made mistakes, tend to be much kinder, empathetic and better people for the adversity they have experienced.
It is very easy to be pompous when everything is going great guns and you have prosperity in your corner. It isn't so much fun when the tables turn and everything seems to go bottom up. It is always in the hardest times of our lives that we tend to grow. We usually become spiritual as we search for answers to why. We realize we are the very same people we were when we 'had it all' as when we no longer have a 'pot or a window to throw it out of"....
So the lesson for today from Gommy is................be kind to people who are less fortunate than you. Compassion and empathy are rather nice character traits to try to emulate. We don't always have control of what happens in our lives and when someone seems to need help or a shoulder.....be that magnanimous person who has the ability to listen or help. Have a Blessed day boys and girls and remember to be grateful for whatever you do have....be it a whole bunch or a little, itty bitty. ((*.*))
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Friday, May 7, 2010
Happy Mother's Day
This weekend is Mother's Day. Gommys thinks we should all appreciate our mothers every day and not just one weekend a year! But we'll take a day..... rather than no day at all.
Motherhood is the hardest job in the world and it can also the most rewarding job in the world. Stay at home moms may feel less appreciated than the moms who work outside of the home. It's very hard to be a mom and have to work outside of the home, but try staying home every single day with the kids and see how much fun that is! Yes, we love our children, but when there is no 'me' time, it can get on your nerves once in a while.
It is impossible to be the 'perfect' mom, but when people think you have it made to just stay at home every day, it really is a disservice to the mom who does all she does every single day of every single year until the children are raised. And then what??? When the kids are grown and out of the home, where is this mom supposed to pick up her life without the identity of "MOM"? She is longer 'needed' and it is really hard to just stop 'mothering' after doing it for so many years. The transition from mothering to just 'being mom' is very hard for some moms. That can cause heartache and many arguments between moms and their grown children. It is a wise mom who knows when to stop 'mothering' and when to become just the 'mom'.
The stay at home mom should never be made to feel 'less than' just because she doesn't go off to work. It is true that in today's economy, it is a luxury to be able to stay at home with your children....but it isn't all making cookies and coloring books for the mom who does stay home. The mom who goes out to work, still has lunch with other adults and has time to listen to music (grown-up music, that is) on her way to and from work. She has interesting things to talk with her husband about when he gets home, besides which friend came over for a play date. And the days when things just aren't going as planned, it is up to the stay at home Mom to deal with the children, the service repair man, the broken air conditioning, and anything else that can go wrong that does go wrong on certain days. And then there is the guilt that stay at home moms feel about wanting to get back to the careers they have given up to stay at home. Then, Dad sometimes feels he isn't getting all the attention he feels he deserves. But to be honest, how much is left of mom to be a sexy siren at the end of the day? Poor mom just can't win.
Gommy is by no means dissing the mom who works outside the home. Gommy know this mom doesn't have an easy time of it either . She has to get her family and herself ready each day with breakfast, lunch preparations, clean-up, sports activities and doctor and dentist appointments, her own work schedule, on and on and etc. And heaven forbid one of the kids is sick....what do you do with a sick child when you have career demands? It never seems to fall on Dad. Is Dad ever expected to stay at home at these times? I think this may happen rarely and it certainly doesn't seem to be the norm. Moms in general are heroines and don't nearly get the thanks they deserve.
And isn't it usually the Mom who gets blamed for anything that went wrong in the upbringing of the children? Mom is the one who is stereotyped as the one who makes her grown children need to see a psychiatrist.....For heaven's sake.....she was doing it all and giving her all and she may have made a mistake or two during all those years she was trying to do her best...give her a break.
As to those mothers who are no longer with us. We realize just how much we miss our mothers with every passing year we are without them. We can no longer just pick up the phone to say hello and 'I love you". We can't ask them what that childhood friend's name is that we just aren't able to recall, or that memory about your childhood that is a bit fuzzy and you wish mom could remind you about it. She was the one you could always ask advice from and know she was on your side each and every time. Because your mother is just about the best friend you could ever have or will ever have in your lifetime. She is the one person you can tell anything to and she will still love you......scabs, scars, faults and all....she is the one who has unconditional love for you....NO MATTER WHAT!! Gommy has often said that even mothers of serial killers love them. That is the kind of love you get from your mother.
So Moms out there and Moms not with us any more.....we love you and we appreciate all you did and all you do for us. We may not say it often enough.....but you are our heroine. You should be proud of being "the everything in the world we could ever need" to make our lives run smoother and who made us always feel loved. Thanks for being the taxi driver, the tutor, the nursemaid, the teacher, the cook, the maid, the confidant, and when we got older.....our BEST FRIEND. I love and miss you to my MOM......and to all the other moms out there....Gommy hopes you have a very special and wonderful Mother's Day...Hugs, Gommy
Motherhood is the hardest job in the world and it can also the most rewarding job in the world. Stay at home moms may feel less appreciated than the moms who work outside of the home. It's very hard to be a mom and have to work outside of the home, but try staying home every single day with the kids and see how much fun that is! Yes, we love our children, but when there is no 'me' time, it can get on your nerves once in a while.
It is impossible to be the 'perfect' mom, but when people think you have it made to just stay at home every day, it really is a disservice to the mom who does all she does every single day of every single year until the children are raised. And then what??? When the kids are grown and out of the home, where is this mom supposed to pick up her life without the identity of "MOM"? She is longer 'needed' and it is really hard to just stop 'mothering' after doing it for so many years. The transition from mothering to just 'being mom' is very hard for some moms. That can cause heartache and many arguments between moms and their grown children. It is a wise mom who knows when to stop 'mothering' and when to become just the 'mom'.
The stay at home mom should never be made to feel 'less than' just because she doesn't go off to work. It is true that in today's economy, it is a luxury to be able to stay at home with your children....but it isn't all making cookies and coloring books for the mom who does stay home. The mom who goes out to work, still has lunch with other adults and has time to listen to music (grown-up music, that is) on her way to and from work. She has interesting things to talk with her husband about when he gets home, besides which friend came over for a play date. And the days when things just aren't going as planned, it is up to the stay at home Mom to deal with the children, the service repair man, the broken air conditioning, and anything else that can go wrong that does go wrong on certain days. And then there is the guilt that stay at home moms feel about wanting to get back to the careers they have given up to stay at home. Then, Dad sometimes feels he isn't getting all the attention he feels he deserves. But to be honest, how much is left of mom to be a sexy siren at the end of the day? Poor mom just can't win.
Gommy is by no means dissing the mom who works outside the home. Gommy know this mom doesn't have an easy time of it either . She has to get her family and herself ready each day with breakfast, lunch preparations, clean-up, sports activities and doctor and dentist appointments, her own work schedule, on and on and etc. And heaven forbid one of the kids is sick....what do you do with a sick child when you have career demands? It never seems to fall on Dad. Is Dad ever expected to stay at home at these times? I think this may happen rarely and it certainly doesn't seem to be the norm. Moms in general are heroines and don't nearly get the thanks they deserve.
And isn't it usually the Mom who gets blamed for anything that went wrong in the upbringing of the children? Mom is the one who is stereotyped as the one who makes her grown children need to see a psychiatrist.....For heaven's sake.....she was doing it all and giving her all and she may have made a mistake or two during all those years she was trying to do her best...give her a break.
As to those mothers who are no longer with us. We realize just how much we miss our mothers with every passing year we are without them. We can no longer just pick up the phone to say hello and 'I love you". We can't ask them what that childhood friend's name is that we just aren't able to recall, or that memory about your childhood that is a bit fuzzy and you wish mom could remind you about it. She was the one you could always ask advice from and know she was on your side each and every time. Because your mother is just about the best friend you could ever have or will ever have in your lifetime. She is the one person you can tell anything to and she will still love you......scabs, scars, faults and all....she is the one who has unconditional love for you....NO MATTER WHAT!! Gommy has often said that even mothers of serial killers love them. That is the kind of love you get from your mother.
So Moms out there and Moms not with us any more.....we love you and we appreciate all you did and all you do for us. We may not say it often enough.....but you are our heroine. You should be proud of being "the everything in the world we could ever need" to make our lives run smoother and who made us always feel loved. Thanks for being the taxi driver, the tutor, the nursemaid, the teacher, the cook, the maid, the confidant, and when we got older.....our BEST FRIEND. I love and miss you to my MOM......and to all the other moms out there....Gommy hopes you have a very special and wonderful Mother's Day...Hugs, Gommy
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Don't Judge a Book by It's Cover!
Just when Gommy thought the moving bug was over and finished for Grandpa and me.....another move was looming in our future. The whole experience has brought to mind the adage, "You can't judge a book by it's cover". If you were to look at the view from our last apartment on the intracoastal, you would think, "Why in the world would they ever want to move from that Paradise!!!" Wellllll, let Goms tell you why.
When Grandpa and I moved in to our beautiful little beach bungalow, we thought that we had moved for the very last time. The view was gorgeous, it was only a block from the beach and it was just what we had envisioned living in for our 'Golden Years.' Then, the wacka-doodles started showing up and making themselves evident. There was late night prowlings and noises so you couldn't sleep, there were fights loud enough to have the police called in the wee hours of the night, the palmetto bugs were multiplying faster than rabbits ( no matter how much bug spray was used and having to be inhaled by us!), there was the problem with parking, i.e. if it rained, you would have to wade to your car in ankle deep run off water, to go to work. Then, just when it looked like the loonies upstairs from us were gone (evicted actually) and the landlord promised (apparently through her lying teeth) that she would 'screen' the next tenants....a REAL and certifiable looney-tunes moved in the very same upstairs apartment. This time, she was an alcoholic who had many personality disorders and reminded Goms of the movie 'Sybil'. Yikes.....what happened to our 'Golden Years'? There seemed to be some tarnishing of the 'gold' going on for sure.....
Grandpa works VERY hard and he needs his rest to be able to do his very demanding job as well as he does....so we started looking for another place to live. In the meantime, Grandpa has been so blessed with the many tournaments he has booked at his work, that he needed a 'lovely assistant' to help him in the daily details and correspondence that he was becoming inundated and covered up with. Voila'...Gommy to the rescue. So, Grandpas' place of work hired Gommy to be Grandpas' assistant. Perfect! No more working late nights, weekends and holidays. And it turns out, that we found an apartment right behind the golf course and we can WALK to work. How perfect is that?
Yes, we will miss the beach being so close and Grandpa will miss having his cigar while he sat on the dock of the intracoastal, while he watched how the 'other people live' going by on their Yachts.....but the peace and quiet and the closeness to our work well make up for it. And we can always drive the nine miles to the beach now can't we.....no whining here. And as an added bonus, the apartment complex has a jacuzzi that Grandpa just loves to sit in after a hard days work.
So, just remember, that even though the grass isn't always greener on the other side, sometimes a picturesque setting isn't always as serene as it appears to others, on the side you are on either. The same holds true for people. You may think that a certain person is all put together and you wish you were more like them or their family, but more often, the truth of the matter is, they are just holding on by the skin of their teeth and you are probably much better off than they are. That is the old 'book-cover' analogy again. Don't automatically assume someone is better, prettier, richer, happier, etc. than you. They may just be acting, emphasis on 'acting' as if they were better off. And the more someone 'tries' to 'act' as if they are better than you....that is a pretty good indicator that they probably are not.
So, here's to Grandpa and Goms moving to another home and hoping this will be the very last move....AGAIN! From Gommy's lips to God's ears.....In the meantime, we will just enjoy our new place and hope the wacka-doodles don't show up again. Have a great day boys and girls....Be happy and be true to yourselves. Hugs and Mush....Goms
When Grandpa and I moved in to our beautiful little beach bungalow, we thought that we had moved for the very last time. The view was gorgeous, it was only a block from the beach and it was just what we had envisioned living in for our 'Golden Years.' Then, the wacka-doodles started showing up and making themselves evident. There was late night prowlings and noises so you couldn't sleep, there were fights loud enough to have the police called in the wee hours of the night, the palmetto bugs were multiplying faster than rabbits ( no matter how much bug spray was used and having to be inhaled by us!), there was the problem with parking, i.e. if it rained, you would have to wade to your car in ankle deep run off water, to go to work. Then, just when it looked like the loonies upstairs from us were gone (evicted actually) and the landlord promised (apparently through her lying teeth) that she would 'screen' the next tenants....a REAL and certifiable looney-tunes moved in the very same upstairs apartment. This time, she was an alcoholic who had many personality disorders and reminded Goms of the movie 'Sybil'. Yikes.....what happened to our 'Golden Years'? There seemed to be some tarnishing of the 'gold' going on for sure.....
Grandpa works VERY hard and he needs his rest to be able to do his very demanding job as well as he does....so we started looking for another place to live. In the meantime, Grandpa has been so blessed with the many tournaments he has booked at his work, that he needed a 'lovely assistant' to help him in the daily details and correspondence that he was becoming inundated and covered up with. Voila'...Gommy to the rescue. So, Grandpas' place of work hired Gommy to be Grandpas' assistant. Perfect! No more working late nights, weekends and holidays. And it turns out, that we found an apartment right behind the golf course and we can WALK to work. How perfect is that?
Yes, we will miss the beach being so close and Grandpa will miss having his cigar while he sat on the dock of the intracoastal, while he watched how the 'other people live' going by on their Yachts.....but the peace and quiet and the closeness to our work well make up for it. And we can always drive the nine miles to the beach now can't we.....no whining here. And as an added bonus, the apartment complex has a jacuzzi that Grandpa just loves to sit in after a hard days work.
So, just remember, that even though the grass isn't always greener on the other side, sometimes a picturesque setting isn't always as serene as it appears to others, on the side you are on either. The same holds true for people. You may think that a certain person is all put together and you wish you were more like them or their family, but more often, the truth of the matter is, they are just holding on by the skin of their teeth and you are probably much better off than they are. That is the old 'book-cover' analogy again. Don't automatically assume someone is better, prettier, richer, happier, etc. than you. They may just be acting, emphasis on 'acting' as if they were better off. And the more someone 'tries' to 'act' as if they are better than you....that is a pretty good indicator that they probably are not.
So, here's to Grandpa and Goms moving to another home and hoping this will be the very last move....AGAIN! From Gommy's lips to God's ears.....In the meantime, we will just enjoy our new place and hope the wacka-doodles don't show up again. Have a great day boys and girls....Be happy and be true to yourselves. Hugs and Mush....Goms
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Trust or not to Trust
Gommy has found that we are never too old to learn.....I just hope the saying, "You can't teach an old Gommy new tricks" doesn't apply. It never ceases to amaze Goms how some people can be so deceitful and how other people cannot see through them. Goms seems to have the curse of seeing through the most cunning or most blatant fake and it causes Goms' stomach to turn at times.
Have you ever noticed how people act differently depending who is around? Like, they act all 'righty-tighty' when the boss is around and don't give a minutes worth of work for the poor boss when the bosses aren't around. I guess that should fall under the category of, "Shame on the boss for not checking up on the slouches!".
Or they act as if they wouldn't say a mean thing about anyone and they are the exact ones you should never turn your back on. My father used to say, "A leopard doesn't change it's spots.", so if you wait and watch, you can usually 'catch' someone with their true personality coming out at inappropriate times.
Then there is the person who 'says' they are a friend of someone but doesn't truly give a good whip about that 'friend' because they tell you all sorts of things about the 'friend' and the 'friends' family or the 'friends' husband, that if it gets out, could ruin the friend her family and her marriage.
Goms has found that the reason most people are willing to make others look bad, just so they can make themselves look better, is that they don't have good self-esteem themselves, so they try to act like they know all the 'dirt' on someone and they tell it to make it look as if they have the ideal life. NOT....It is actually just the opposite. They have a miserable life and just want some company. Hence the sage adage..."Misery loves company."
People who feel inferior in their intelligence are most often the ones who are the loudest, the brashest, and are mean in their everyday lives. They just can't live with anyone else being happy, so they just stir the pot and try to make everyone else miserable. How sad.
But the good thing, is that we are in control of allowing or not allowing the evil ones to ruin your day your life or your family. Just stay away from them and let time show the type of person they are. They can't hide forever and it is only a matter of time before their true colors show.
Always try to remember that there is usually more than one side to a story. Try to figure out what motives are involved when someone is trying to manipulate a situation. You will usually find that the person who is the manipulator has a hidden agenda. Mostly, it is to cover up their own insecurities and make people think they are all that and a bag of chips.
The worse kind of person in Goms' book is the one that stabs you in the back just to stay on the right side of someone else. Like the saying...."Knowing which side of your bread is buttered on." But remember that you don't have to be a turncoat to stay on someones' good side. Saying nothing is better than betrayal. You should want to do what is right and be able to look yourself in the mirror each day.
So peeps, please stay true to yourself and to your friends and family. Sadly, it is becoming a lost character trait anymore. Good character is something that cannot be bought. It is earned and it only takes a lapse in judgement to lose it and it is very hard to regain.
Have a great day and keep working on being a good friend, family member, mother, father, child, citizen and just all around good person. It is a process and well worth the effort.
Have you ever noticed how people act differently depending who is around? Like, they act all 'righty-tighty' when the boss is around and don't give a minutes worth of work for the poor boss when the bosses aren't around. I guess that should fall under the category of, "Shame on the boss for not checking up on the slouches!".
Or they act as if they wouldn't say a mean thing about anyone and they are the exact ones you should never turn your back on. My father used to say, "A leopard doesn't change it's spots.", so if you wait and watch, you can usually 'catch' someone with their true personality coming out at inappropriate times.
Then there is the person who 'says' they are a friend of someone but doesn't truly give a good whip about that 'friend' because they tell you all sorts of things about the 'friend' and the 'friends' family or the 'friends' husband, that if it gets out, could ruin the friend her family and her marriage.
Goms has found that the reason most people are willing to make others look bad, just so they can make themselves look better, is that they don't have good self-esteem themselves, so they try to act like they know all the 'dirt' on someone and they tell it to make it look as if they have the ideal life. NOT....It is actually just the opposite. They have a miserable life and just want some company. Hence the sage adage..."Misery loves company."
People who feel inferior in their intelligence are most often the ones who are the loudest, the brashest, and are mean in their everyday lives. They just can't live with anyone else being happy, so they just stir the pot and try to make everyone else miserable. How sad.
But the good thing, is that we are in control of allowing or not allowing the evil ones to ruin your day your life or your family. Just stay away from them and let time show the type of person they are. They can't hide forever and it is only a matter of time before their true colors show.
Always try to remember that there is usually more than one side to a story. Try to figure out what motives are involved when someone is trying to manipulate a situation. You will usually find that the person who is the manipulator has a hidden agenda. Mostly, it is to cover up their own insecurities and make people think they are all that and a bag of chips.
The worse kind of person in Goms' book is the one that stabs you in the back just to stay on the right side of someone else. Like the saying...."Knowing which side of your bread is buttered on." But remember that you don't have to be a turncoat to stay on someones' good side. Saying nothing is better than betrayal. You should want to do what is right and be able to look yourself in the mirror each day.
So peeps, please stay true to yourself and to your friends and family. Sadly, it is becoming a lost character trait anymore. Good character is something that cannot be bought. It is earned and it only takes a lapse in judgement to lose it and it is very hard to regain.
Have a great day and keep working on being a good friend, family member, mother, father, child, citizen and just all around good person. It is a process and well worth the effort.
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Easter 2010
Happy Easter to all those who celebrate this holiday and to everyone else...hello! Goms wrote about new beginnings last week and Easter time is the epitome of new beginnings.....figuratively and in reality.
Gommy's life started a new beginning today too. Today was the first day of a new job and lifestyle change for Grandpa and me. No more weekends, nights or holidays to have to work!!! Isn't that marvelous???
It boggles the mind when Goms thinks about how for many years, while growing up, nothing much ever happened that was very different in Goms' life and Gom's comfort zone was in the range of about a 20 mile radius. Then....BOOM....in the next part of Gom's life there were several moves, in and out of the state, and all over the place. I'm trying to count how many moves there actually were....hmmmmm......let's see...there were at least 10 moves into different areas and different homes. Geesh....it really is amazing how our lives change and how very little we have to say about those changes. Yes, we can refuse to move, or whatever the situation may be, but Goms thinks everything happens and unfolds exactly the way it is supposed to.
The older one gets, the clearer it becomes that we are all just actors in the play of life. If you look back on your life, you will see that even if you struggled with something, lost someone, were greatly disappointed in love, changed careers, and so on.... you really didn't see most of it coming and you still came out the other end and you are still breathing. We lose touch with people, even relatives, we have different likes and dislikes as we mature....we have children, raise them and then they move on with their own life and have children of their own. When you are raising your children, you could never imagine that one day, they wouldn't need you any longer. If you are totally wrapped up in the 'identity' of being a mother or father and even though you will always be the mother or father.... you no longer have to 'mother' or 'father' any longer...you may feel lost and not know what your role in life is without that role identity. The well adjusted person is the one that realizes that their 'role' is no longer necessary and finds other ways to fill up their life.
Although change may seem unsettling and may seem negative on the surface, you may find that the change is actually making space for something good in your life. Even if there is a period of uncertainty and fear, you must learn to live with the uncertainty and try to enjoy the excitement of something new. The Roman philosopher Tacitus said that "the desire for safety stands against every great and noble enterprise." Eckhart Tolle says that " if uncertainty is unacceptable to you, it turns into fear. If it is perfectly acceptable, it turns into increased aliveness, alertness and creativity."
So Gommy's wish for all you boys and girls this Springtime is to find a new something.....anything......and even if it scares you....do it....you may just find that it is the exact thing that will make you a happier you! Taking a 'Leap of Faith' involves believing there will be a net there when you do leap!!!! Hugs and Mush...Gommy
Gommy's life started a new beginning today too. Today was the first day of a new job and lifestyle change for Grandpa and me. No more weekends, nights or holidays to have to work!!! Isn't that marvelous???
It boggles the mind when Goms thinks about how for many years, while growing up, nothing much ever happened that was very different in Goms' life and Gom's comfort zone was in the range of about a 20 mile radius. Then....BOOM....in the next part of Gom's life there were several moves, in and out of the state, and all over the place. I'm trying to count how many moves there actually were....hmmmmm......let's see...there were at least 10 moves into different areas and different homes. Geesh....it really is amazing how our lives change and how very little we have to say about those changes. Yes, we can refuse to move, or whatever the situation may be, but Goms thinks everything happens and unfolds exactly the way it is supposed to.
The older one gets, the clearer it becomes that we are all just actors in the play of life. If you look back on your life, you will see that even if you struggled with something, lost someone, were greatly disappointed in love, changed careers, and so on.... you really didn't see most of it coming and you still came out the other end and you are still breathing. We lose touch with people, even relatives, we have different likes and dislikes as we mature....we have children, raise them and then they move on with their own life and have children of their own. When you are raising your children, you could never imagine that one day, they wouldn't need you any longer. If you are totally wrapped up in the 'identity' of being a mother or father and even though you will always be the mother or father.... you no longer have to 'mother' or 'father' any longer...you may feel lost and not know what your role in life is without that role identity. The well adjusted person is the one that realizes that their 'role' is no longer necessary and finds other ways to fill up their life.
Although change may seem unsettling and may seem negative on the surface, you may find that the change is actually making space for something good in your life. Even if there is a period of uncertainty and fear, you must learn to live with the uncertainty and try to enjoy the excitement of something new. The Roman philosopher Tacitus said that "the desire for safety stands against every great and noble enterprise." Eckhart Tolle says that " if uncertainty is unacceptable to you, it turns into fear. If it is perfectly acceptable, it turns into increased aliveness, alertness and creativity."
So Gommy's wish for all you boys and girls this Springtime is to find a new something.....anything......and even if it scares you....do it....you may just find that it is the exact thing that will make you a happier you! Taking a 'Leap of Faith' involves believing there will be a net there when you do leap!!!! Hugs and Mush...Gommy
Sunday, March 28, 2010
A New Beginning
Hello Boys and Girls and happy Palm Sunday to any Christian readers out there in blogland. To everyone else....just 'happy day' to you....
This is the last Sunday that Gommy will have to work on a Sunday. Hooray and hallelujah! Gommy and Grandpa Mike are pretty excited about a new development in our lives. Goms is going to be working as Grandpa's assistant, at the golf course where Grandpa works. We have been Blessed in that Grandpa has procured so much business in his job as Sales Director, that he needs someone to help with the mountainous details and paperwork that comes with all that business. Voile'.....Gommy to the rescue....But to be honest...it was really Grandpa to the rescue of Gommy. Now Gommy will not have to work nights or weekends or Holidays any longer and Grandpa and I will have a 'normal' life again with supper together and collaborating on the daily business tasks as we have done in the past when we owned our own golf course for ten years. The added bonus this time around though, is that we don't have to worry about the rest of the zillions of things you have to worry about as an owner. It is much less stressful to go out and 'get' the business. Grandpa can do that with his eyes closed and one hand tied behind his back. And Gommy is good at being 'behind the scenes' and doing all the crossing of the T's and dotting the I's for Grandpa. Go Team!!!! It is what we do and if I may say....what we do well.
Change can be very frightening for people. That is why some people stay in situations that most would wonder why in the world they are staying? But we must let go to find our happiness sometimes, if we find that isn't the case any longer where we are at the moment. You don't let go so that something good might happen. You let go to be the very best of yourself.
Many people don't have the luxury of choice. That is a sad position to be in and may explain why so many people seem so unhappy in their lives. For that reason, Gommy is very grateful. Grateful to have the option of changing something in my life that will ultimately be better for Grandpa and myself. Grateful for the Grace of God to have heard my plea. Grace is the invisible influence of the divine. With Grace, life's limitations are abolished. Evil disappears and there is nothing to fear any longer. Taking a 'leap of faith' means knowing there will be a net there for you when you do jump. Scary???? You bet....but you have to "Believe it to See it."..... not the other way around as most people live their life.
Gommy must admit, that I have asked many times in my life to bring me to 'center'...to the perfect life situation for me, or to change a situation that I no longer wanted in my life. God has always answered me and I am eternally grateful for that. We may not think we are 'getting' all that we ask for in prayer....but Goms has found that it is the 'time-frame' that confuses us. We do get what is best for us....but maybe not in the time-frame we expected. And we may get what is the best for us and not exactly what we specifically asked for. So just remember, that everything in the Universe is unfolding EXACTLY as it is supposed to happen. We may not like how things happen at times and other times we are crushed...like at the loss of a loved one. But that too, is how it is 'supposed' to be even though we don't understand how the 'plan' is unfolding at the time; if you can just go with the flow, you will eventually see, with clarity, that this is so.
So, Gommy wishes for anyone out there who is unhappy in their life situation, that they can take the 'Leap of Faith' after asking for Grace to help them find their right path in life. Instead of saying..."I must work harder for what I want"....flip it to " I must find new inspiration and a place where I am appreciated for my hard work." Instead of saying, "My dream failed"....say "I will find a dream that matches my reality"....instead of saying, "Everything in my life stinks!' , say "This too shall pass."....." because whether you are a success or a failure; the flow of life brings both realities to us, as temporary states. " (sic)
So Gommys' wish for you this week is to let go of something that isn't fulfilling to you any longer and ask for something that makes you much happier each day.....don't be afraid.....'Ask, Believe, Receive'. But the real secret is you HAVE to BELIEVE!!!!! You might just find yourself in a position that is a better fit and that you are truly appreciated for. Goms is pulling for you! Hugs and Mush to all!!!
This is the last Sunday that Gommy will have to work on a Sunday. Hooray and hallelujah! Gommy and Grandpa Mike are pretty excited about a new development in our lives. Goms is going to be working as Grandpa's assistant, at the golf course where Grandpa works. We have been Blessed in that Grandpa has procured so much business in his job as Sales Director, that he needs someone to help with the mountainous details and paperwork that comes with all that business. Voile'.....Gommy to the rescue....But to be honest...it was really Grandpa to the rescue of Gommy. Now Gommy will not have to work nights or weekends or Holidays any longer and Grandpa and I will have a 'normal' life again with supper together and collaborating on the daily business tasks as we have done in the past when we owned our own golf course for ten years. The added bonus this time around though, is that we don't have to worry about the rest of the zillions of things you have to worry about as an owner. It is much less stressful to go out and 'get' the business. Grandpa can do that with his eyes closed and one hand tied behind his back. And Gommy is good at being 'behind the scenes' and doing all the crossing of the T's and dotting the I's for Grandpa. Go Team!!!! It is what we do and if I may say....what we do well.
Change can be very frightening for people. That is why some people stay in situations that most would wonder why in the world they are staying? But we must let go to find our happiness sometimes, if we find that isn't the case any longer where we are at the moment. You don't let go so that something good might happen. You let go to be the very best of yourself.
Many people don't have the luxury of choice. That is a sad position to be in and may explain why so many people seem so unhappy in their lives. For that reason, Gommy is very grateful. Grateful to have the option of changing something in my life that will ultimately be better for Grandpa and myself. Grateful for the Grace of God to have heard my plea. Grace is the invisible influence of the divine. With Grace, life's limitations are abolished. Evil disappears and there is nothing to fear any longer. Taking a 'leap of faith' means knowing there will be a net there for you when you do jump. Scary???? You bet....but you have to "Believe it to See it."..... not the other way around as most people live their life.
Gommy must admit, that I have asked many times in my life to bring me to 'center'...to the perfect life situation for me, or to change a situation that I no longer wanted in my life. God has always answered me and I am eternally grateful for that. We may not think we are 'getting' all that we ask for in prayer....but Goms has found that it is the 'time-frame' that confuses us. We do get what is best for us....but maybe not in the time-frame we expected. And we may get what is the best for us and not exactly what we specifically asked for. So just remember, that everything in the Universe is unfolding EXACTLY as it is supposed to happen. We may not like how things happen at times and other times we are crushed...like at the loss of a loved one. But that too, is how it is 'supposed' to be even though we don't understand how the 'plan' is unfolding at the time; if you can just go with the flow, you will eventually see, with clarity, that this is so.
So, Gommy wishes for anyone out there who is unhappy in their life situation, that they can take the 'Leap of Faith' after asking for Grace to help them find their right path in life. Instead of saying..."I must work harder for what I want"....flip it to " I must find new inspiration and a place where I am appreciated for my hard work." Instead of saying, "My dream failed"....say "I will find a dream that matches my reality"....instead of saying, "Everything in my life stinks!' , say "This too shall pass."....." because whether you are a success or a failure; the flow of life brings both realities to us, as temporary states. " (sic)
So Gommys' wish for you this week is to let go of something that isn't fulfilling to you any longer and ask for something that makes you much happier each day.....don't be afraid.....'Ask, Believe, Receive'. But the real secret is you HAVE to BELIEVE!!!!! You might just find yourself in a position that is a better fit and that you are truly appreciated for. Goms is pulling for you! Hugs and Mush to all!!!
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Fraud???
Hello blog readers and good Sunday to all you boys and girls. Today Gommy wants to talk about self examination in the way that Goms wonders if I am a fraud. It was pointed out to me recently, that I don't live up to the 'wiseness' that I preach about on my blog.
Recently, I have found myself 'drowning' in my own advice. You could say that I feel like the worst kind of 'advice giver' in that I find it difficult to follow what I say we should do. I do feel as though some are just waiting to say, "Aha, caught ya'"...and that is sad...sort of like kicking a dog when he is down. But, if I dish it out, I have to be able to take it.
In a veiled explanation of Gommys' life in the past month....it feels as if the Universe is throwing everything back at me that I have ever said out there and said..."Really? How about this scenario Goms? How are you going to act when XY or Z happens big shot?" Goms isn't in a real good place right now and I know I have to dig down and reevaluate everything I have been trying to understand in the last few years since everything came tumnbling down all around Grandpa and me.
Goms has said in the past that anyone can be great when things are going good.....it is adversity that shows the real mettle of a person. Goms is trying to work on that mettle right now.
Goms has always had a really tough time watching anyone getting hurt or watching someone in an embarassing situation. I actually feel sick having to watch someone made to feel badly. That leads to another of Goms' personality traits.....I don't like...NO I HATE confrontations. Gommy would rather walk away or avoid any situation that could end in confrontation. I guess you could say Gommy is a cowardess. I guess I am guilty of that one as well.
The Facebook quote on my profile page says, "Sometimes courage doesn't always roar, sometimes courage says I will just try again tomorrow." So that is where Gommys is today folks....looking for courage.
Goms is going to share a very inspirational poem with you called "Desiderata". It was brought up to Goms recently and made me remember to re-read it and it has a wonderful message. Hope you enjoy it :
Desiderata - by Max Ehrmann
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.
Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann c.1920
Enjoy and I will leave you with those wonderful words....Gommy has some self-work to do. Be happy...Hugs and Mush, Gommy
Recently, I have found myself 'drowning' in my own advice. You could say that I feel like the worst kind of 'advice giver' in that I find it difficult to follow what I say we should do. I do feel as though some are just waiting to say, "Aha, caught ya'"...and that is sad...sort of like kicking a dog when he is down. But, if I dish it out, I have to be able to take it.
In a veiled explanation of Gommys' life in the past month....it feels as if the Universe is throwing everything back at me that I have ever said out there and said..."Really? How about this scenario Goms? How are you going to act when XY or Z happens big shot?" Goms isn't in a real good place right now and I know I have to dig down and reevaluate everything I have been trying to understand in the last few years since everything came tumnbling down all around Grandpa and me.
Goms has said in the past that anyone can be great when things are going good.....it is adversity that shows the real mettle of a person. Goms is trying to work on that mettle right now.
Goms has always had a really tough time watching anyone getting hurt or watching someone in an embarassing situation. I actually feel sick having to watch someone made to feel badly. That leads to another of Goms' personality traits.....I don't like...NO I HATE confrontations. Gommy would rather walk away or avoid any situation that could end in confrontation. I guess you could say Gommy is a cowardess. I guess I am guilty of that one as well.
The Facebook quote on my profile page says, "Sometimes courage doesn't always roar, sometimes courage says I will just try again tomorrow." So that is where Gommys is today folks....looking for courage.
Goms is going to share a very inspirational poem with you called "Desiderata". It was brought up to Goms recently and made me remember to re-read it and it has a wonderful message. Hope you enjoy it :
Desiderata - by Max Ehrmann
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.
Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann c.1920
Enjoy and I will leave you with those wonderful words....Gommy has some self-work to do. Be happy...Hugs and Mush, Gommy
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